Is my boyfriend playing mind games?
my boyfriend of 3yrs split up with me over a week ago,said he still loved me etc but needed a break but cause I didn't want to have a break he split up-said it was for the best we both was so upset an couldn't eat for days an stuff I begged but didn't work obviously I realized how stupid I was to beg. so I cut contact and now ain't spoke to him for just over a week I'm doing well! no texts off him either though. he used to have Facebook but deleted it cause he hated it and didn't know how to use it. so I was just waitin for the day he got it back after we split up. week later he gets it back an changes his relationship status to single :( so both of ours are now "single". few days later he comes on an hides the relationship status so no one can see it. I went to do the same but thought no why should i, I'm single so why hide it- he probs wants me to do the same so I kept it up. anyway the next day he comes on an then bit later I noticed he'd put it back up single again so everyone can see!so I hid mine then he hid his again! ARH! what's he playing at? don't know whether he's got Facebook to discreetly check up on me too haha cause he now I'm always on it anyway...please help?
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*grins* I think your playing the mind games. Most guys just don't think like you describe. We don't go about changing our FB profile to mess with our ex's. Even ones where on a break with.
He's probably just not sure what status he should be posting. He's probably, like he said, honestly not sure and needs a break but is unsure wether to post a single status (after all, he doesn't know he wants to move on but knows he wants to meet other women).
He's young and I would guess your his first or only serious relationship and he's reaching the cold feet stage of the relationship.
If your into him in a big way... just set your status to something other than single and wait him out. If your getting over him, just live your life and move on.
What Guys Said 2
He can only play mind games if you allow him to do so. Cut him off, leave him alone, be single. He will not come back, has no reason to come back, until you break up first, really and truly.
Facebook is the anti-christ. I dated a girl for 4 years. She broke up with me, yet kept her status as "in a relationship" for a month after we broke up. Then all the sudden one day she posted "single" and ever since she's been posting pics of her partying and getting drunk with her stupid friends and other guys, etc. I still love her so much to this very minute, and she doesn't even seem to care. I feel your pain, it's an awful thing. He wants you to come running back. She wanted me to chase her, I didn't, and I actually moved away. It's made things easy and difficult at the same time. One way to gauge a reaction is to de-friend him.
What Girls Said 1
Holy cow, I'm going through the same thing, exactly! My logic is (now I don't know your situation, just an option) he is on Facebook to check up on you. He is doing whatever he needs to do to get over the relationship, but that doesn't mean he has moved on. Now, you checked up on him so he is probably doing the same. Its hard to let someone go, by pulling away from them completely. Take it as it is, its just Facebook. Be thankful that he cared enough to voice his Facebook issues to you, that means its really getting to him. It's not easy, but at least he is on the computer thinking of you, rather then in some other girls bed... If he is playing games, your playing with him by responding to him.