How do I know if my guy mate is falling for me...when I'm falling for him...?

The story goes something like this.

My mate and I met each other a year ago. We had the same friends, so we started to hang out. Only when all of our other friends went away did we get the chance to get to know each other better. We chatted every day, and on msn as well. We had deep conversations about life, death, love, compassion, our likes and dislikes, and we found out that almost EVERYTHING matches! We are completely the same. Needless to say we where both shocked. But also very oddly pleased and fulfilled. He asked me out a lot of times since then, and I asked him as well. We went out very often and he would always take care of me, he would protect me and shelter me. He never let me out of his sight. We would text each other in the middle of the night just to remind ourselves of what kind of a day we had, we still do. The thing is. Both of us are extremely shy! I just can't make a move and neither can he! He had a plan of which I knew since he told me. That we are to get drunk and then we'd have no inhibitions. But that didn't work since we were stopped in the progress. X(

" -The signs are: He touches me and pats me on the back, but never hugs me. He stares at me quite often, and smiles at me with such a wide smile that I can't help but laugh too! He compliments me when ever he can. For the smallest things! He just opens up to me and to no one else (he told me this and I do the same). His eyes have a different glow (i know it's weird to say this, but they do) when he's looking at me. His best guy friends seems to know all about me, and his guy friend is always talking to me and smiling. It's funny! ;) - "

We still do a lot of those things, but now that our friends are back we feel even more restricted. And I'm confused. I don't know if he really likes me or not since we never actually said the words! :(


Most Helpful Guy

  • Obviously he does. He wants to get drunk with you because from his paste experiences he's see this works for him. He doesn't have to hold back, he can do what he wants - provided you want it too. You should go for it and just be together. Life is short as it is.


What Guys Said 3

  • Based on your descrip. Of the situation, I would say both of you are certainly in to each other. This kind of relationship (as opposed to simple physical attraction) is typically much better and gives the relationship a much stronger chance of becoming a fulfilling one. You need to get to the point with him without being too strong. I don't think he will back away, I think that he is just afraid that you will. So tell him your feelings bluntly. Both of you need to be able to do this to make it work. Tell him that you are very into him and that you think that it would be better if the two of you just naturally let go of your inhibitions and gave it a real shot. Friends should not make a barrier just more comfortable as they get used to the idea (if they are good friends. ) Tell him you don't want to waste precious time or feelings if you both have them and lets take it a step further on the romantic end. If it doesn't work. There was no harm in trying. If it does, then you are in for great things. A simple statement like that should work. Finally, when you are together don't wait for him to make the first move. Give him a hug put your hand in his back pocket, kiss on the cheek, etc. That should loosen things up and not put you out there too much.

    • Thank you all for the comments! You have helped me a lot...but the problem is that we are always surrounded by our friends...we can never find a minute alone ever since our buddies returned! (They were absent for some time...on a trip...) ....

      What's worse...his computer is we can't even chat on msn anymore...just through our cellphones...(we barely ever have money on them!)... :(

  • There is no doubt he likes you if what you say is true. But, you both are way too shy and it could screw up your relationship. We've all had relationships where you feel too shy to act and then before you know it, the magic is gone. You need to tell him "Hey, we both like each other, so let's just do what we want. " You guys already did this and stopped, so he's probably afraid of wanting something you don't. This means you should tell him that he can act without worrying about rejection, and be sure to say that you WANT that. Of course, you have to be ready for him to screw up or want things you don't, but that usually goes without saying.


What Girls Said 3

  • It sounds like you've already "sort of" had that talk. You're really only a teeny step away from being a couple. And that little step is only to say you are indeed a couple. After the acknowledgment, the rest (making a move) will follow naturally.

    Take down that one final brick in the wall. You're doing better than I am. XD

    Good luck ! I'm very happy for you two.

  • He definitely likes you. You definitely like him. It's prefect. As for the inhibitions thing, just pretend you're drunk. Decide one day that you both can do whatever you feel and won't be judged. Then go for the hug or more. :D Have fun!

  • Awwww. You guys are so into each other. But the answer to your question is. YES he is so into you!

    • Yeah...I kind of figured as all he has to do is make the first move...and I don't think he's gonna do it! And...I only see him once or twice a week now...I miss him... :(