Do girls really want nice guys?

You say you do, but you certainly don't practice what you preach, at least most of you.


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  • One thing so-called badboys do that so-called nice guys don't is MAKE MOVES AND TAKE RISKS! I've spent entire evenings wondering if I'm EVER gonna get kissed by the nice guy and entire evenings wondering how the badboy managed to get his tongue in my mouth so quickly when I didn't want him to at all ever!

    I'm not saying nice guys should stick their tongue down women's throats more often, but if you like her and you feel like she's giving you signs she likes you back, stop hinting around and giving her little signs you like her - she probably gets that and wonders if you are ever gonna do anything about it, and eventually that gets old and irritating with even the most patient woman so MAKE YOUR MOVE!

    Another thing the socalled badboys do that the nice guys don't: If they are reasonably sure they are gonna get rejected they either do something really bold or they move on to someone who will not reject them, but they assess this fairly quickly while the nice guys are still trying to read mixed messages and worrying about rejection.

    Here's another thing the so-called badboys do that the nice guys don't - and admittedly, it's based on a lot of arrogance that I don't WANT nice guys to have: When they get rejected, they don't dwell on it or take it personally, they think the woman is a fool for rejecting god's gift to her! DORKS! Haha! But there is something to be learned if you can manage to not dwell on it and not take it personally and just move on to someone else who will be more receptive to you.

    So to sum it up, be a nice guy, be a knight in shining armor, sweep us off our feet and capture our heart with kindness, humor and spirit - we want that and we fall head over heels for it like you would not believe. Make that move - we want you to! But without being a douchebag badboy... And without acting like an idiot after we've had sex.

    I think a lot of what decides if you are a nice guy or a douchebag is how you act after you've been intimate. This is when women decide if you are just using them, if you are gonna be clingy/needy/high maintenance, if you are gonna judge them or if you are gonna put them at ease and show them it's all still good, you'd like to be with them again and the decision is theirs too, but you won't create drama if they decide its not gonna work. Some nice guys really get nervous about the communication at this point - and rightly so - and so clam up, but this is when it's important to really communicate.

    We all know what the douchebags do at this point, so this is when you stop taking cues from what's working for them, because they only know how to get girls, not keep them , so they create the badboy personna to cover up that shortcoming.

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    • Yeah but there is one difference though, a nice guy can learn to be more assertive and spontainious, particuraly if a girl tells him to take the lead... A badboy on the other hand is always going to be a player, it's what they are, they won't ever change. They'll be players until they day they die, at least that has been my experiences with friends and family who were badboys. They are irredemable.

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    • Agreed! But again, making a move, doing something bold, does not necessarily mean doing something sexual, especially before you are both ready. Making a move can be something you say or do that shows the girl you will take emotional risks for her because afraid or not, you want to be with HER.

    • Sometimes it seems like the nice guys assume no means no but the bad boy knows that's not the case. The nice guy doesn't wanna feel like a rapist. Honestly also I like to talk with women about serious stuff or even silly stuff as fellow human beings, if everything I am doing is about trying to hit on her trying to get laid I don't feel like I am even treating her as an equal

What Girls Said 94

  • I guess because of attraction. Women may WANT to be with a good guy, but attraction keeps them going back to the bad boy.

    I would point out that it is the same with guys: guys say they want a nice girl, but many are so attracted to bitchy/mean/dominant women and they can't control it - they have to have her.

    Confidence is very attractive to women and men. jerks have a lot of confidence.

    Nice guys with confidence can be difficult to find - and if it comes down to a nice guy with no self respect and a confident guy who is a bit of a jerk, the sad truth is that women will go for #2.

    However, this does not mean that women don't want to be with nice guys - a nice guy with confidence is what would make a woman truly happy.

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    • "...if it comes down to a nice guy with no self respect and a confident guy who is a bit of a jerk, the sad truth is that women will go for #2."

      I've done a lot of personal research on the "nice guy" subject, and I can (somewhat) understand woman's perspective. Yall most of the time have to choose between two extremes: Nice dude w. no "sexy" qualities that would be good for you, and the very "sexy" dude that is a jerk. At least #2 would be assumed as a good lay, and could be used just for sex.

  • It's really stupid but all girls want a good guy but every guys a good guy on some level. The reason we go for assholes and jerks is cause they get our attention. As much as we bitch and complain that guys do all the things we hate but it's what catches our interest the thrill of the chase. Nice guys just need to catch our attention

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    • Somewhat hard to be a badboy when you're a man and don't want to disgrace yourself or your gender.

    • Most guys don't have a problem. I love the sensitive sweet guys but they do finish last cause they don't do anything special to get our attention

  • We do like guys who are respectful but 1) a lot of the jerks first acted like this to manipulate us and 2) we also want a guy to joke around with us, even making fun of us a little, versus always being polite and serious. There are other reasons why it seems like only the "jerks" get the girls versus the "nice guys" though it isn't necessarily true, but these are just the 2 that I could think of on my own right now.

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    • How can I make fun of girls in a flirtatious way? I never knew how to do it.

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    • I'm not saying to seriously hurt her feelings or creep her out, but at the same time don't always be so polite and, uh, "nice." Actually being too polite and "nice" can be a bit creepy. Put a balance between always being super nice and always being a jerk, and don't be too available either. This works for both guys and girls in trying to attract and keep the opposite sex.

    • Looks like I'll be single for a long time to come then, lol

  • I can't speak for all women, but I can tell you what I want:

    *Intelligence

    *Drive

    *Career

    *Want to cuddle

    *Want to party

    *Be tough enough that you don't actually have to follow through on kicking some guys 6 when he grabs mine

    *Bring me flowers

    *Tell me you're thinking about me

    *Love your momma

    *Be able to fix my car

    *Be strong enough to throw me over your shoulder

    *Be confident

    *Be classy

    *Have the ability to get drunk without being an idiot

    *Talk to me like I'm human and have a brain

    *Be confident

    *Be honest

    *Adore me and tell me I'm beautiful

    *Be happy

    *Have the guts to ask out the pretty girl, chances are no one else does!

    Being a bad boy is a state of confidence, that's what attracts women more than anything. My man seems like the total "bad boy" type. Pro athlete, bouncer, big tough guy...he's the nicest man I know

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  • YES! I don't care what other guys THINK is the case. But I personally love them. But it depends on what your view of a nice guy is. Of course we won't show interest in a guy if he can't get off his ass and talk to us. If a guy is funny, makes me feel comfortable, and feeling really good about myself then that's all it takes to get my attention. Personally as soon as I see the guy treating me badly or acting like a total ass I say "see you later, have a nice life!". I'm not one of those girls who are going to settle for something less cause I know I deserve to be treated good. So all you good guys don't give up! There isn't many left out there. If you want to find a nice girl be a nice guy. If you want a slut or just want the girl for the night then fine treat her however you want. So I guess I'm not one of those typical girls then! :)

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  • YES, YES, YES! I'm really starting to get sick and tired of these douchebags that are running around wild! I have always been into nice guys! I think they are so sweet and genuine.

    I think I'm one of the few who steer away from these cheap-talk, horny males. I have beautiful single friends who are waiting for these nice guys to show up ... until then, we pretty much shy away from dating at all. =(

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    • I have never been a fan of dating myself. I am unlike most guys in that the physical and attraction is little but should be there personality means much more to me and will make me more attracted to her, you know specific traits and characteristics and etc, but do agree an attraction should be there and is only initial

    • I fyou like "nice" guys, get used to making the first move. Most "nice guys" are also shy.

  • I have always liked nice guys, and could never understand why a girl would want a bad boy. Then I met a "bad boy" and he definitely used me for a hook up. I haven't heard from him since and now it's driving me crazy. I think girls feel like they are always trying to prove themselves to everyone, so if a guy makes us feel like we aren't good enough then we want to prove that we are. So we stick around hoping for the chance to prove it. However, I can never imagine anything serious with a guy like that, and I can't stand guys that are mean! Huge turn off! This guy was "nice" but he had an "I don't give a fu** sort of attitude... and that was hot! Good luck with us crazy girls haha we seem to never know what we want!

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    • I know what you mean and I've been in a similar situation. Bad boys SUCK and "douchebag-ness" isn't cute!!! I think you hit the nail on the head when you said we want to prove ourselves. Its like a mind game that you never asked to participate in!! Once you realize you're that circle, its time to bail, QUICK!!

  • Gals know if they want to catch a guy, they have to do things to attract him first. We're told to work on our bodies, our style, our overall appearance as well as our own little quirks that are negative such as being too needy or too timid or too self-centered or too chatty...

    "Nice" guys can still work on their approach ... it doesn't make girls jerks to not see it right off the bat. Most people want attraction and chemistry along with a stable relationship. This takes confidence and working on your flirting skills. Both men and women can work on their charm and approach to attract more people. The "niceness" is what can keep a good relationship running strong. This means beign considerate and kind, not being a doormat.

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  • Yes we like good guys some like bad boys, there is a difference there one is a guy and the other is a boy. Sometimes the good guys aren't sure how to make the girl notice them, maybe because their shy. And most of the time we girls fail to notice the good guys right under are noses and we don't figure it out for a long time. SO TO ALL You GREAT GUYS OUT THERE GO OPEN HER EYES! And show her the best guy was standing right infront of her the whole time! The best way isn't always the easiest so I wish you all luck! ^^

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  • to an extent we want nice guys. we want a guy who is nice, but isn't pampering our every need. so open the door, and see how she reacts. if she thanks you, then do it more, if not... don't worry about it next time. it just depends on who you get with my griend. women are very confusing.

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  • the only guys I've ever dated are nice guys, and YES, all I really want is a NICE GUY. however, just because the guys are nice doesn't mean they are perfect and incapable of being jerks. because they can be jerks just like bad boys, they're just a lot better at hiding it. sooner or later this insecure little boy comes out and takes out all of his past frustration with women on you, and that is not worth it.

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    • To be frank, ur post sounded bitter.

    • Absolutely. I'm totally bitter after having been in two serious relationships with guys that were SO nice to begin with... I didn't care about their lack of attractiveness and social skills, I just wanted a nice guy. Then a year or so in their egos inflate, they think they can get whatever they want because they already HAD a hot chick, so why can they get tons more? They both came back later, but by then I had seen what they were REALLY made of. now I date nice ATTRACTIVE men... less issues.

  • Guys use the word "nice" too much. Most of the time, they're referring to pushovers who are too passive, which isn't attractive. A guy can be assertive and still be a decent guy--those are the "nice guys" girls like.

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    • "Guys use the word "nice" too much."

      I have to agree w. this one. Guys that do not approach girls that they have interest in seem to self-proclaim themselves as "nice guys" to give themselves a cop-out for a lack of success with girls.

      I wasn't the most confident dude back in the day, and wasn't successful AT ALL w. girls until grade 8. However, I didn't use the cop-out of "im a nice guy, and girls like bad guys" like others did.

      Just approach girls you like, and take the rejection like a man. :)

  • of course we want good guys. if I find out my guy is not good, then I won't be with him.

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  • The girls that do so, stay single! now there's your answer. Not to mention, guys just wanna score (mostly), so they cheat, lie, ignore and whatever they can. Major turn off

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  • We like nice guys but we also like a challenge--which comes the misconception that we like bad guys. Its good to be nice but don't be a pushover. There is the difference nad people often confuse nice guys with pushovers.

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  • I do, but what nice guys don't know about the jerks is that they act like nice guys when they're around us, so what they're telling their nice friends is not the same thing they're telling us girls.Jerks are "Nice guys" around girls.

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    • Very true, the are great pretenders, that's why those guys are called players. A close gal friend of mine got really used like that, I wanted to go rough the guy up but, anyway.. there are some girls who date guys they know to be jerks or want to 'save them' or think they can change them, as far as I'm concerned those girls got what they paid for. A player will always be a player, they don't change. But I have no sympathy for guys who act like players to get ahead, they only dishonor themselves.

    • Yeah it's horrible. Ugh what retard gave me a downy?

  • No, most girls do like cocky, arrogant assholes that they think they can change or will be different with them. Its the truth.

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    • Ughh so true for some girls. A lot of my friends are like that.

    • So ur saying u'd like it if I treated you like sh*t and called you a slut, because I guess I don't think its right. And if girls don't like that, well your just gonna end up broken hearted because you could had someone like me whoo wouild of been the best guy ever

  • At the moment I have a bad guy and a good guy liking me.

    I have gone over this tons in my head an know that bad guy is not good for me, he has qualities and habits that I don't like. But I still like him and still want to see him I'm so scarred he will hurt me but I i can't help but want to keep seing him.

    I am hell confused where me and him are going, I don't know what to expect I stress out I'm thinking bout him and the situation all the time I have told him good bye 2 times but he doesn't leave me alone and I like this.

    I don't know want it its? its really stupid really, but year us girls like a challenge and drama! guess we see it in the movies and think everything will be ok and we will live happily ever after. :

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  • I would prefer a nice guy but the guy has to have the ability to be a man once in awhile. Meaning taking over some of the decision made but having the decency to let the girl have some say so as well. Most girls want what they can't have, as well as a guy that will do something nice for them every once in awhile. Not bending over backwords to every whim that she may have. It's different for everygirl tho...

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  • The world is full of

    shallow girls who choose "bad" "rough" etc guys

    shallow guys who choose "fickle" "princessey" "selfish" girls.

    I believe this behavior has the same root in both sexes, there are complex psychological reasons as to why but basically it is a sign of a lack of emotional development of both sides. This question is worded like this is a female phemomenon and its not.

    i prefer a guy with a set of morals who will stick by them even if that means he won't be as "popular". I don't like a doormat and many people confuse "nice guy" with "doormat".

    bad boy = emotionally stunted/damaged = boredom buster, miserable relationship

    good guy = emotionally strong/healthy = long term boyfriend material, happy relationship

    doormat guy = emotionally stunted/damaged = boring, posible long term but not happy

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  • personally yeah every girl wants to be with a nice guy but if he becomes the clingy nice and starts saying sorry for every little thing just so he can make us feel like we can never do wrong those are the guys I don't like I want a challenge in the relationship I want him to show me he's not afraid to be mysterious and keep me guessing in a good way and being flirty helps out a lot so in the end I guess most girls want a nice guy who can give her a challenge ass well but not being a complete jerk at the same time

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  • I would love a nice man!

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  • I think it has something to do with the whole wanting what you can't have phenomena. When a girl is with a "bad boy",she may desperately pine for a "nice guy." Vice versa for the whole having a "nice guy" and wanting a "bad boy".

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  • Well, we do like nice guys, but for me, they don't have to be like 100% nice you know? I mean if he's always too peaceful, great and everything, how could we be in a fight? The relationship would be just boring because without fighting you won't experience new things, new feelings and things like that.

    This doesn't mean that he shouldn't be nice with me, he really should, but I like him to be flirty .. mysterious .. fun!

    I wouldn't like him complementing me on what I am or the things I have, instead of that, I would like him to tease me and like we'll have fun! That doesn't know his nice side, but that's what good in that :) He shouldn't be extremely nice because the girl is gonna get bored of the relationship, she likes what's fun in a relationship, not what's normally random.

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    • If a relationship without fights is boring, then you aren't looking for nice guys.

      If a relationship with a guy who compliments you is boring, then you aren't looking for nice guys.

      If a relationship with a guy who is nice is boring, then you aren't looking for nice guys.

    • So basically you like creating drama.

  • We do want nice guys. but we like the temper as long as you know how to control it. and if the guys are fighting over us we don't usually pick the nice one we pick the one that's fighting the hardest.

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    • Personally, I never "fought" for a girl.

      I show my interest, make my "moves" (which is exactly what typical "nice-guys" DONT do), and it's up to her to make the choice. If that choice isn't me...the line goes back in the boat; there are other fish in the sea.

  • it depends... if you're too nice it can be unbelievably annoying. Think for yourself because most girls hate it when guys go along with what they say. sometimes they like a little disagreement ;). anyway do what "star2128" said... open doors for her and see how she responds. if she doesn't say anything, then you can tell she the type of girl who feels she can do things for herself and can get offended when guys try to do to much... she probably doesn't want to seem like a "damsel is distress who can't think for themselves" she probably just wants to cover... that she not that kind of girl. reactions are everything... no matter how small or big, meaningful or meaningless it is! like everyone else said... girls are super confusing.

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  • I like nice guys.

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  • Not me! After spending a few years being one of "those girls", I spent a while being single (i.e. getting my guy priorities straight) and fell for a sweet and quiet boy I knew from high school.

    Some girls are just late bloomers when it comes to dating the right guys. But we catch on eventually ;)

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  • i want nice guys and I tell myself that I want nice guys ... but sometimes they are just too nice...

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    • They need to grow some balls is what you saying lol

    • What exactly is been too nice? Can you explain or give some example of actions that are "too nice"? Is been aggressive in the pursuit/chase part of been too nice? Like buy her little stuff etc.

  • We want the nice guy that rides in on his white horse and saves us but @ the same time we want the guy who does something out of character! Just like guys hate predictability so do women. Stay respectful @ all times but every now and again spice it up

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What Guys Said 34

  • Girls like MEN, not boys who are either tying to "pay" for her attention (compliments, gifts, approval), or who are trying to "bully" her for attention (jerks who play games, insult her, or sexual perverts.)

    Find a middle ground by being sincere, honest, but also aloof, mysterious, flirty, fun, a tease, and challenging.

    Women want the game of dating to be fun.

    If you're too easy, or too hard, for her to connect with (by being either needy, desperate, jaded, or angry), she'll push you away. But by being fun (flirting, laughing, going on adventures) but also being challenging (not letting her walk all over you, teasing her a little, and not showing her all your cards) you allow her to take her time to experience time with you like a reading a good novel. Let her learn about you over time, over many dates.

    The best way to be a "MAN" is to build her attraction for you by LEADING and ESCALATING.

    I'd recommend reading this: link and this: link

    Good luck man!

    ~ Robby

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  • If being nice isn't working out for ya, then why don't you join the jerks, come on join the club. Do you really want to have to wait for a girl to call you, or you have to always call her? Girls call me constantly my friend, they text me all hours of the night, and it's getting a little annoying. Now the women are going to say well I will end up alone and single, really, now how does that work, I have a girlfriend right now, and before that I was getting girls in no problem, so do they just think all my knowledge of women is just going to disappear one day, and I won't be able to get a gf?

    Some chick even posted on here that she was with a bad boy and he used her or something and now its driving her crazy. Bingo she can't stop thinking about him, this happens to chicks all the time, and guess what they will still come back to the jerk, but on the other hand if your nice, you get the lets be friends, or if actually do end up with a gf, she gets bored, she cheats, or she ends the relationship, and it comes as a shock to the guy, so he just stands there frozen like a deer caught in the headlights. I see that happen all the time.

    If one strategy isn't working why not try another that will work, to me that is just common sense.

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    • I 100% agree with you, I see this "all" the time. As the old saying goes "Nice guys finish last"

      Girls only want nice guys when they are in there upper 20's, say 27

    • Maybe so, but you will never have any honor, better to die a virgin than to live as a male slut. and that is exactly what players are, male sluts. Enjoy the sexually transmitted diseases and meaningless hollow relationships.

      speaking for myself, I'd rather die a hero than live as a bastard.

    • You'll regret saying it is better to die a virgin than live as a male slut once you actually get laid, one of the greatest feelings in the world. I'm the type of guy who sees a hot chick and asks her out, not the type of guy who sees a hot girl and wishes he could ask her out. For the record I do have a girlfriend and its a good relationship, I haven't cheated on her, and no diseases. How are you going to die a hero, more like die a coward, maybe you should grow some balls and actually talk to a chick

  • It's not about being the nice guy or the bad boy, it's about being the real man.

    -MaxPrime

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    • EXACTLY!!!!

      Finally, there's a man out there that gets it! Now, the problem is, your definition of that and mine are probably vastly different, and everyone else who reads this is going to have a different definition as well.

      However, it is very easy to tell who is following their own inner voice of how to be a real man, a stand-up guy, and who doesn't have a clue or doesn't care and gets away with whatever they can.

      Women: be a real woman and you will be more likely to find a real man.

    • Lol Thank you. I'll try to define it better.... A real man has an internally centered frame of mind. Meaning he acquires his inner believes, confidence, and strength within himself. He can be cocky; but he'll make fun of himself when he's doing it. He will change a girl's mood (by being fun), not her mind (by pleading to have sex; not going to work). He does not hold girl's on a pedestal. They are human and want to be treated that way. Honest, assertive, and caring finish up this definition.

  • Girls like polite nice, not clingy "I'll pick you and your girlfriend up and drop you off at the movies because you don't have a ride" nice. The polite nice guy can finish first; the desperately nice guy finishes last.

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  • Girls like nice guys. What we, as guys, think of a "nice guy" is different than what girls think. Because the nice guy we think is a nice guy is in fact not at all a nice guy. It is a nice puppy, one that humps the leg of one girl, becomes her servant in hopes of her throwing him a bone.

    A nice guys in a girl's mind is one that shows masculinity, power and backbone but without abusing those traits. James Bond is a nice guy. You know, a gentleman.

    So yeah, girls love nice guys, but they don't love (as in they're not attracted to) pathetic puppies.

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  • The cold reality is that most people (both men and women) are attracted extraverted, outgoing people. Some of these guys are going to be arrogent douchebags, but as long as they are out going and self-confident, they will continue to meet girls. Some girls do like interoverted men, but most people are attracted to confidence.

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    • Well extroverted people have higher social value, but not every one is "more" attracted to that kind of type of personality. but confidence is a huge factor yeah. introverted people can still be confident, simply put, most people lacking it Are introverted.

  • I know what you mean and feel you but think of it like this, maybe 5% of Americas females actually contribute to this site and they say yea we love nice guys and of course you mean he treats her right and is always there for her but the rest of em love the a**holes and I think its mostly because those guys are super good and smooth talkers in the beginning and don't show the true colors until a little bit ltr.

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  • From the nice guy side:

    The ones who like jerks tend to either have big issues with their past (mean jerky fathers / uncles... that kind of junk) that will end up taking a lot to work through.

    That or they are jerks themselves.

    Either way, its worth your time to wait for someone else nice... they will come along, and they will be awesome.

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  • From my own experience, and for the most party, girls do want a nice guy. But it's the bad guys who give them the most attention and are more driven than the nice guys. This is why girls are more likely to choose them. If your not quick on your feet, someone else will get there before you.

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  • It goes both ways. Guys are shallow(alot of them) and girls go out with jerks cause they get tricked very easily. I mean of course you would think girls could tell after the first time. They say one thing and then do another. a perfect quote for girl who continually go out with jerks is "Fool me once shame you.Fool me twice shame on me"

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  • Women want nice guys that they're attracted to, not the nice guys that are wussy, passive, and put the women on a pedestal.

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  • Protip: Women never know what they want.

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  • no they don't want a nice guy at all bro

    they say too much but they don't mean it

    i seen it

    i experience it

    this how it goes

    a nice guy

    its all way there for them

    next to them

    when they are crying sad whatever

    they are always there

    nice guy ask them out

    they said

    either

    a- I don't want to ruin our friendship

    or

    b-your cute lol stop joking

    they want a bad guy its proven over and over again

    why

    a- they get cheated on

    b-they are made felt like they rnt good enough

    c- the whole I'm going to change him bs

    now girls always say guys are douche

    why

    cuz they most of the time the date the bad guys

    the douches



    i know every girl will disagree but history proves them wrong

    and when they are in their 30's or 40's

    they want the nice guys

    cuz if they truly did want the nice guys

    they would go for the one that is next ot them all the time but they don't

    peacE!

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  • Bro, I think rainydaydreamer nailed it. Nice is a generic term that generally means no balls. Anytime I was nice in that way to a girl, I was put in the friend zone. Then later when I told them I had feelings, they literally told me at one time there was an attration but now they saw me as a trusted "brother-like" person. Be a man. Take the lead, if she is giving you the signals, don't ask just do until she says no. I have never "asked" any of the girls I hooked up with for permission. I read the body language and just went for it. You would be suprised the level of girl you can get if you have confidence and just give off the I don't give a f*** attitude.

    However, this does not mean be an asshole. Be confident and the leader, but treat her with respect and as a partner.

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    • "if she is giving you the signals, don't ask just do until she says no."

      This is some real talk. I've talked to female friends, exes, etc, and it's true: the girl, when it comes to being sexual, wants the guy to read her body language and go for it WITHOUT ASKING.

      You'll be surprised how many girls get turned off by a guy "asking for permission" to make moves. When it comes to being sexual w. girls, it's better to be too aggressive than to not be aggressive enough. I'm a testament. 8-)

    • @Prof Don

      You nailed it brother with this line "When it comes to being sexual w. girls, it's better to be too aggressive than to not be aggressive enough."

      So true. The worst that will happen is you get told stop or no, then you are in the same place you would be without trying. If you get lucky then you get some, which WONT happen if you DONT try!!! Good answer man

  • Girls never know what they want. They make up little check lists of standards that a guy is suppose to meet, yet never stick to it or once they get it, they figure out that it was not enough. You have to make them know they love you or they will just make you know you love them...simple as that, but remember they might not stick with you just because you like them.

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  • i would say it really matters on the girl.yea I know some women want the nice guy but yet they don't see it that its right in front of them sometimes and instead goes for the idiots and bad boys.but sometimes its reality and we all live in fantasy dreams and fairy tales like all these princess fairy tales for girls ya know.

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  • The guy who can take initial steps forward with some likings of the girl makes the competition.

    But this won't make a trustworthy sense of security for girls.

    Thnx

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    • Mamujaan, can you clarify what you mean?

    • I mean that guys who takes initial steps means talking to girl ,taking her out making them laugh, makes competition with guys who are polite,shy,and won't make initial steps.

      But what actually need is sense of security for a girl or comfort which actually by time only right one can provide.

  • Depends on the girl itself.

    Good Luck.

    - Harvey D

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  • nice guys often are worse at talking to girls

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    • They are shy, it's part of the problem, just don't know how to be assertive, but not dominering.

  • because women don't do what they think is right, they do what they feel is right...

    and "nice guys" don't create that sense of attraction for women that the "bad boys" do...

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  • I think its thes the bad boys that they start off with but the good guys they settle down with

    link

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  • Girls usually like guys by personality which all guys are different.

    And is opposite for guys. Mostly looking for looks

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  • There are a few, but there are more nice guys then there are girls who want nice guys, unfortunately.

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  • i think girls just want to work, a good guy would be to easy to get for them. A bad guy on the other side is harder to get and they want to change them, to make them good. That's a challenge and girls like challenges ;)

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  • girls HATE guys who dnt have any confidence... and that's girls of ANY age, walk of life, whatever... if they dnt like you, why worry abt them? Why cry abt it? You gotta make yourself happy...

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  • my girl wants me to be a d*** to her sometimes.

    ...i'm a little lost on the situation but it's kewl

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  • for real dawg I don't get some girls. every time I see a nice girl she be always with a rich guy who has a nice car and sh*t. all they care about is money but of course they always talk about nice guys and that money don't matter. f***in whores

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    • In that case you know the wrong girls! or just notice the ones who are "golddiggers" because I can guarantee you that many girls aren't this way.

    • I know I've had a lot of nice gfs

    • I guess its because I'm from LA. its like that here. money is errything

  • ONLY when they're settling down.

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  • No. Period.

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  • women want the guy but theyre afraid to accept him because theyre so used to the bad guy that that's all they think theyre ever worth for. they also think the good guy is fake because of how they think all men are the same. I'm a good guy I just simply have confidence so I'm able to approach a girl. while I've struck out on occasion. I have found a girl that really liked me for me and I'm glad for that. so don't ever think you need to "change" your attitude, you just haven't fond the right one yet

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