I don't hug. Part of it is me being anti-social and not caring to admit that breaking the touch barrier is a step in the courtship process. The other is that I'm Chinese, we're very conservative and it's not normal to hug others spontaneously in China. I've never even hug my parents or family since...
I don't hug. Part of it is me being anti-social and not caring to admit that breaking the touch barrier is a step in the courtship process. The other is that I'm Chinese, we're very conservative and it's not normal to hug others spontaneously in China. I've never even hug my parents or family since I was a baby.
A lot of girls I know get offended when I don't hug them. Some even to the point where they don't bother talking to me anymore. Not that I consider those types of girls worth knowing any longer...
So do you hug? Why? Do girls do it because it feels good with guys, or is it just a type of greeting?
i used to be VERY anti-hug. in middle school, I was known for hating hugs and stuff like that so the night of the 8th grade prom, I legit got assault-hugged by 20 different people. x___x twas very traumatizing. in high school, I got a little bit better, but I still felt kinda awkward hugging people...things changed in college because my roommate was SUPER touchy-feely lol. hugs ALLLL the time, for no good reason either :p she made me feel really comfortable, and soon after, I was able to hug others more naturally. I still am pretty reserved, but I have no issues hugging my close friends. it's a combination of a greeting and an acknowledgement that I like and trust you enough to embrace you.
I love to hug people I care about. I'm a shy person, but I'm also very affectionate; I love showing affection and receiving it in return. I don't get offended if someone's not really the hugging type.. although I may hug them anyway. A hug to me is just reassuring and comforting.
I have a chinese friend who's never hugged her parents either, but she's used to giving us hugs. I don't really care tbh, I give hugs but only initiate them with really close friends, not with people I've just met. When it comes to guys, if they want to hug me they can, but I don't expect one and I won't be offended if they don't. But they have to want one, I'm not a very touchy feely person.
I love hugs. I love the feeling of a guy's arms wrapping around me and holding me close, his smell, the closeness, the intimacy. That bubble that wraps around you and you feel impervious to everything around you. Maybe feeling his stubble against my cheek, I love that contrast.
I hug my friends occasionally but rarely my parents or siblings. There's just something there that prohibits me from hugging my family, probably because they know my personality and have long-lasting impressions and it just feels a bit odd to hug people who you're very close to. I hug because I'm happy, there's something to celebrate, it's a special moment, etc.
I hug because I was brought up with an Italian culture and that is how you greet people.
In your case, "A lot of girls I know get offended when I don't hug them." I think girls got more attention when they were little. They use to get picked up and hugged all the time, so that is how they are taught to be, and when someone doesn't hug them they find it weird.
Yes, generally though it depends on the culture I'm around. With freinds I tend to do the general hand shake hug (not sure what its called). But my family are from brazil, its teh cultural norm there to greet each other with hugs, even many times those who arn't family. I live in England and would greet people with hugs but given the culture is so different here I just wouldn't people would get the wrong idea lol