Men, if you have feelings for a woman, why ignore her?
I can tell my Ex still has feelings for me since we didn't get a chance to have a real relationship and I moved to another state. When we talk, he says he misses me and when I'm visiting I can tell his feelings are still there as well as mine. But when I return home, its like he falls off the face of the earth. I hear nothing from him. Often times I have to text him first. I refuse to contact him any further. So is he lying, or are my senses wrong? Or is it because I'm so far away? Why not hit me up every now and then? I don't get it.
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Most Helpful Opinion
I'm obviously not a guy, but I have a bad habit of ignoring the guy I have feelings for, because I'm afraid of rejection and being vulnerable and transparent. It's counter-productive, but a defense mechanism I can't help. Go with your gut on this one. Do you really believe he has feelings for you or is it wishful thinking? Odds are, unless he's a total d***, he probably really does miss you when he says he misses you. Guys aren't exactly raised to be in-tune with their feelings and wear them on their sleeves, either. So it could very well be that he isn't quite sure how to handle them. Heck, I'm a girl and I still have a hard time sorting out what I feel, and it's not as taboo (for lack of a better word) for me to share my feelings than it would be if I were male. Unfortunate, but true.
What Guys Said 2
It would be great if a couple's strong feelings for each other were enough to solidify and sustain a relationship, but sadly, they are not. There are other factors involved, not the least of which is how often they are able to see each other. In your case, I'm sure his feelings for you are very strong, but you live so far apart that it's not really possible to sustain a long-term relationship.
Maybe it doesn't hurt as much that way.
What Girls Said 1
well the guy I had a thing with...we went to school together and he liked me and then stopped gave me the cold shoulder...and then a year later liked me again and would try to talk to me again and then as soon as id try to get closer and ask him out he'd get scared and disappear for the rest of the year again then next year it'd start all over againu probably figured out the ending: I MOVED ON. if a man can't make up his mind and figure out his feelings, then he obviously has a conflict with himself. and I'm not an object to be played with and stand around and wait for him forever. I gave him a piece of my mind and never looked back. he had so many chances he lost them.