Friend of fiance - crush?
I've been with my fiance for 2 years and I really love him, but lately I've gotten a crush on one of our mutual friends. I'm a really sexual person but with my fiance the sex has never been that great and has gotten kind of infrequent, but every other aspect of our relationship is perfect. I won't cheat on him (I'm not a cheater) and I think the friend is too close to both of us to do something like that. So here's the question... Last weekend we all went out to have some drinks and we were stuffed into kind of a tight corner table, and my knee was up against the friend's thigh. I couldn't move without getting squished by the wall, but he could've scooted over. He didn't, he just left it there. And lately, he's been texting me more than usual and sometimes says things that seem flirtatious, but he's not the kind of person that would hurt a friend like that. What's going on? Does he have a thing for me too?
Yeah, I did tell him to put in the work. He got all hurt that he wasn't satisfying me, and swore he'd try. But, that was like a year ago and nothing has changed in the sex dept, except I'm more frustrated! Sucks, because otherwise, he's perfect.
That's what I'm afraid of, Zebolt. I am horribly confused.
Thanks Zebolt. That's what I needed to hear. And asking strangers is helpful... :) There's distance and less bias than can be found with friends. I don't know what to do about my man. I do love him, but obviously this is a problem. (continued)
I'm rational but my brain is sort of muddy with lust these days. I needed a good slap in the face, I think. :)
Thanks cajoi. I have talked to him in depth about what I like, want, need, etc. He just didn't take the ball and run with it. I do feel like an jerk for letting sex get in the way of a great relationship, but this is marriage we're going into.
I just realized I can comment directly on answers. Sorry people, this is my first time here. :)
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