Is my Ex-Girlfriend Bipolar?
Okay this really weird to ask, but I am looking for help. My girlfriend of a few months has dumped me for the second time in two weeks. Throughout the relationship, she showed possible signs of being bipolar...extreme mood swings, depression, loss of energy, headaches, body aches, uncontrollable crying, the need for a lot of sleep...more of the depressives side than manic. She also has stated on a few occasions she needs time alone to think about things. The first time she dumped me I was drunk and being rude to her so that was the catalyst that stressed her and might have depressed her. She was also telling me that I was smothering her and that she needs to be a very independent person. She was pushing me away. She came back to me a few days later with all this love and I miss you's. The next few weeks she was proclaiming her love for me basically...bragging to her friends about me, making long-term plans with me, saying I am amazing, calling me, etc. Then after a weekend getaway she proclaims that this relationship isn't working, she can't pretend to be happy anymore, she doesn't have feelings for me, and she isn't attracted to me anymore. The day before this breakup was a really good day for us too. We had a lot of fun on our weekend getaway. This last breakup was sudden and I am just confused. Is she bipolar? I heard an unconfirmed rumor that she was in therapy during high school a few years back and that they did diagnose her with bipolar.
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Most Helpful Opinion
If she was bipolar, she would also have frequent mood swings throughout hours, not just changing her mood over days. When she is happy, is she EXTREMELY elevated, almost to the point of restlessness? And after a few hours, does she plummet to the lowest of the low?
You should really suggest for her to seek help, but NOT during a fight or something, make sure it's when you two are relaxed or holding each other or something.
When she gets on medication, she should be x1000 better, honestly.
If she already IS on medication, then she may need to switch the type she's using, or, and probably more likely, she needs to see a therapist to talk about her life, since her problem may not even be so much due to the chemicals in her brain. (This is IF she is already on meds.)
What Girls Said 2
Sounds like it could be something like bipolar disorder, depression (it's possible she was depressed the whole time but just tried to pull herself out of it every now and again, rather than it being a manic phase) or maybe borderline. But again, we're not doctors on here. All you can do is suggest she sees one ad leave it at that. If you want to be with her you'll need to support her through it and if not then leave her to it in peace.
Well, first of all, people on the internet can't diagnose your (ex)gf with bipolar disorder.
But anyways, I am actually a non-medicated bipolar :): and she seems to have a lot in common with me, sadly. The back and forth in the relationship sounds exactly like something I would do.
The signs are there...
Why don't you just talk to her about it?
What Guys Said 1
Sounds like trouble, whatever her problem is. Bipolar, borderline personality disorder, who knows?
Check out shrink4men.blogspot.com The site is by a female psychiatrist who writes about the damage that psycho chicks can do to men. A few years ago, I dated a girl who twisted my head around so bad I thought I'd never recover (I needed over a year to get over her). So I sympathize with your confusion. Shrink4man answered a lot of questions, and now I suspect that the girl I dated had some borderline traits...