No matter how many questions are on this site, there's always questions about "my boyfriend/girlfriend hangs out/talks to/ facebook friended/texts this other girl/guy." In my opinion if you're with someone, you should be able to trust them. If you can't trust your boyfriend or girlfriend to interact and socialize with people of the opposite gender (without your supervision) why are you dating him/her?
This isn't a stab at anyone who is insecure, I realize people have been hurt and cheated on. But really, in the time before getting into a new relationship should people not have found a way to move past insecurities or at least found a way to trust your new partner? Eventually trust issues you have with someone are going to cause friction in any relationship.
I guess my main questions are- If you don't trust someone, why do you continue dating them? If they've shown reason to be not trusted, that's not going to change so why put yourself through that? If they've been nothing but loyal and just happen to be friends with members of the opposite gender, why do you stress yourself when they've never done anything wrong?
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because sometimes you just can't help how much you love them. and can't stand not being with them. you'l put yourself through pain just to be with them. its horrible I know but I'm doing it now.
i hate myself for it and I wish I was strong enough to walk away. but the thought of not being with him and watching him move on with someone else breaks my hurt. and that's just the thought of it.. so imagine how I would be when it finally becomes reality.
even though it happened a year ago (him cheating) I find it so hard to even let him talk to another girl. do you know what its like to have every single bad thought/imagine run through your midn about what they could be doing with one another, or what he wants to do with her. I wish these thoughts could just eb erased from my mind it would make my life so much easier. its taking over my life and I can't stop it. and its making me lose him.
i've even thought about taking drugs to keep my mind from thinking things. or going on anti-depressents because I've heard they can relax you.
its not a nice feeling knowing a guys messed you up so much that you will go against all your beliefs to try and feel better, and STILL want to be with them. I just hope that one day I'll be strong enough to leave him.
everyone can think what they want but you can never understand until you've been in my shoes and have the same mind as me. everyones different and deals with things in different ways.
sorry its long.