Why are people so untrusting?
No matter how many questions are on this site, there's always questions about "my boyfriend/girlfriend hangs out/talks to/ facebook friended/texts... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
because sometimes you just can't help how much you love them. and can't stand not being with them. you'l put yourself through pain just to be with them. its horrible I know but I'm doing it now.
i hate myself for it and I wish I was strong enough to walk away. but the thought of not being with him and watching him move on with someone else breaks my hurt. and that's just the thought of it.. so imagine how I would be when it finally becomes reality.
even though it happened a year ago (him cheating) I find it so hard to even let him talk to another girl. do you know what its like to have every single bad thought/imagine run through your midn about what they could be doing with one another, or what he wants to do with her. I wish these thoughts could just eb erased from my mind it would make my life so much easier. its taking over my life and I can't stop it. and its making me lose him.
i've even thought about taking drugs to keep my mind from thinking things. or going on anti-depressents because I've heard they can relax you.
its not a nice feeling knowing a guys messed you up so much that you will go against all your beliefs to try and feel better, and STILL want to be with them. I just hope that one day I'll be strong enough to leave him.
everyone can think what they want but you can never understand until you've been in my shoes and have the same mind as me. everyones different and deals with things in different ways.
sorry its long.
What Guys Said 2
You just see all those questions here because this site was kinda made for it... And people who feel insecure about their relationships just come here looking for help or some other points of view to tranquilize themselves or to confirm something they were already thinking... It's not about trust, it's about insecure people. And since everyone get some insecurities sometimes, I think that pretty much explains why there are LOTS of questions like those you mentioned.
Monogamy is not natural, its a social construct, its an ideal imposed by society for the good of society. People lack trust because, they cheat, and expect others to do the same. You can't control someones behavior but have to rely upon them for your needs and wants, it might be fear of losing the comfort and security of a realtionship
What Girls Said 2
Trust is a hard thing to gain and to keep. Once it's been ruined by one or more persons it makes it hard to trust again; anyone for anything. I've been through a lot and I'm trying so hard to let more people into my life but it's so much easier said than done. When you get into any new relationship whether it's just a new friend or special someone do you trust them automatically or do they not have to earn it? To me, it has to be earned and I make sure they are aware of my trust issues but I also don't make it a huge deal all the time unless I feel the need to bring something up that they have done.