been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months and was really good i am 22 she's 20 she has a child who is not mine but I get on with him really well and she even says I do and well in the 3 months the most we had been apart is one or 2 days and if anything I thought it was a little to much but we had a long week end apart 5 days and now it seems odd I have msged her and she has msged back but few hours later with very short texts I just guessed she was stressed or tried so put it down to that and then when I did think I was going to see her she said she could not but I was like OK that's fine then when I did see her again it was good and not odd we got on had a joke and a laugh we slept down stairs with her little both as he is teething then in the morning she seemed off with me not sure why then when I asked when she wanted me round next she was like can't do then or then what about Friday I said it was fine but I feel like something has happened she does not message me or want much to do with me it feels and yes before people ask I am very paranoid I went out with her some years before and she cheated but she has grown up a lot so I took her back and well anyway my Q is to the girls : does that mean anything or am I just over thinking it and been over paranoid?
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im sorry to say this...but no one else has really given you a true answer at least not one that I can understand. my thought is once a cheater always a cheater...sure she's grown up a lot but that doesn't necessarily means she's changed...after all we all grow. But my other thought is this alternative:
I'm not really the clingy type and I'm not saying your clingy...just that you may be doing to much. Maybe she feels like you are spending to much time together some people just need time by themselves to recharge...even with a baby.
but this could be the reason she couldn't see you "then but then" but made it two days later a Friday that you could see her again.
I don't know what you say in text to her...but I dated a guy that was cheated on by his ex girlfriend and he basically sent me text like Where are you? What are you doing? When am I going to see you? (when he saw me yesterday) and What friends? and these text were within hours of each other.
it made me feel like he didn't trust me..which he didn't and that he always had that feeling that I was going to cheat on him like his ex. I think once a girl or boy cheats on one or the other...it pretty much kills there confidence in there other relationships...all I can say is don't let your girlfriend kill yours. and if you feel like this is happening its time to either talk it out or find someone else who won't.
Its fine I guess if you want to know where? what? and why sometimes...but too much makes a girl crazy. I would advise that if you have something to actually say in text besides that then go for something like "NASA setting off one of there rockets in two weeks we should go and see it sometime? or just a how was your day? If she doesn't answer the first time don't text back...until she does. Then perhaps she will see that your interested in her but only if she is...it takes two to make a relationship work.
If you are paranoid that shouldn't be and your wasting your time and hers.
Then again maybe she has grown up...a cheater.