OK I have had a friends with benefits for a couple months now.. He is amazingly Gorgeous! I feel like I really want him but I don't really know what to do.. I'm just going with the flow.. hoping he will eventually have feelings for me! I have been seeing him quite some time.. good family friend.. We do a lot more than just sex.. like shopping, hanging out even without sex... and then when we do have the sex.. It is amazing sex! I already have told him that I really really like him.. well he is hurt by an ex right now so he always cuts himself down and I hate it... and whenever I tell him he is amazing he asks me how and one time I went with a full blown awesome answer.. and he said "I don't know how you see anything in me.." I can talk to him for hours and he calls me in middle of the night just to talk about thoughts.. which I really enjoy... I just know he has been through a lot and I don't know how to express how bad I feel for him or I don't know what I could do to help him move on easier, I just wish he was mine :( It has been over a year since his divorce and he is still hurting.. I just don't know what words would be good without being pushy or anything.. I would like to have understanding words an that I am there for him type.. I just feel bad and there is really nothing I could do or say to help I feel! I just really love him and see a lot of potential in him.. I can look into his eyes and see that his soul is crushed.. would a guy always be damaged from an ex? or will he eventually move on and try find a new love life with someone? anyways, Thanks, -the one without answers
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Hmm...The feeling you have for him is quite powerful from what you said above.But,even though you give so much affection To HIM,he might not understand it RIGHT NOW.Because,he is mentally hurt from his EX.Are you quite sure that HE STILL DONT HAVE ANY FEELING FOR HIS EX? This is very important because it will be difficult for You to get him if he still has hidden love for his EX.
But the hope You have is that 'If he waits for His EX for long and no positive response and on the other side YOU ARE caring and loving him at that amount he expects from his EX,then he might turn to You.But its a slow process for Guys because WOUNDS that an EX or Girlfriend makes on a GUY will take far more time to cure than A GIRL THINK!...So I suggest you to give all care and affection you could give but YOU MUST MAKE SURE THAT you don't act impatient .Just Love him.