So I met this guy at Best Buy, we kind of hit it off, he was very nice and flirty and asked for my number. I gave him my number and we texted, his...
So I met this guy at Best Buy, we kind of hit it off, he was very nice and flirty and asked for my number. I gave him my number and we texted, his text messages that same night, began to be more like, "hey sexy, sup mamita, etc..." I asked him straight up what it was that he wanted, whether it was a physical relationship like messing around, or something serious, he said he was looking for a girlfriend, and I was OK with that, I asked him to turn it down a little and he agreed because he said he was into me. We kept texting for like 3 straight days, and everything was good, he said he wanted to hang out, but now I haven't heard from him in 2 days, and I know I might be over exagerating because its only been 2 days, but when he asked for my number that day, it made me think if he's just a flirt and will keep asking for numbers to see who will give him some, or if he's just not interested anymore. Please help! :D thank you!
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There's a name for guys who say things like "hey sexy, sup mamita, can't wait for you to put it down on me mami, etc." HONEST GUYS!
Do you know what a player sounds like? "Hey, I'm Greg. Want some gum? I love your shoes. Sex? Who? Me? Of course not! What motivated to talk to you was my strong inclination to the possibility that we might have a wonderful relationship and future together." DISHONEST GUY!
So you met a guy who has basically told you "I want to fcuk you" and you're wondering what you should do.
I'll let you in on a little secret. "Until a guy has sex, don't get fooled by his external act; he has absolutely no feelings for you." For all he knows, you can be gone with the wind. The same way you're worried about him having sex with you just to leave you later, is the same way a guy is worried about investing himself in you only to have you walk away. And that's why guys don't do it. Sure, they might seem like they do it. They might convince you that they do it. You might be completely sold and buy into the "I have feelings for you and am totally willing to wait to get to know you" routine; but, nothing really starts happening until after sex.
This guy is being strait-up with you. "I want to fcuk you. You're someone I could see myself fcuking for a very-long time; perhaps until my sex drive stops working. You might just be feminine and sexy enough for me to not want to fcuk anyone else. And you don't seem like a b*tch, so I might actually enjoy being in a relationship with you." That's really all he's saying.
From that point on, that's where the "getting to know you" starts to happen.
So are you really going to let your insecurities and paranoia get the best of you? Do you really want to settle for Mr. My-what-lovely-eyes-you-have? The guy is being real with you. If you don't want that, then go find someone fake.
Coming from a player myself, I have a drawer full of numbers, and a book of numbers from women I've accumulated over the past year. They all go in "the drawer" along with many other photos, and other things that women have left over at my house.
Now that being said, I never ever plan on calling any of them. EVER.
Keep this in mind, if a guy invests time and effort toward you of any kind he likes you. If he spends A LOT of time and effort in you, he likes you for you. -its not a definitive thing either way, but its the best indicator you have.
I get hit on by guys like this allllll the time and usually get guys texting me about my as* and then I put them in the player category lol but I have learned a couple things about a situation like this! If you two end up talking more, he needs to take you on a DATE, and you two can get to know each other... here are some scenarios:
he doesn't want to go on a date = he just wanted to fu** you
if he does want to go on a date = he may still just want to fu** you but he may also be interested in seeing what happens... seeing if you two hit it off
if he goes on many many many dates with you without any sex = he likes you
Now you say that you haven't heard from him in 3 days, does that mean that you texted him and he didn't respond? Or does that mean that he hasn't taken the initiative to text you first?