When should you forgive a lie?
I found out my boyfriend lied to me, I'm trying to forgive him but I'm having a hard time because I don't know if I should.A few months ago my boyfriend found a picture of his ex on a p*rn site and emailed her to let her know about it. when I asked him if she replied or talked about it he said no.Last week he got a text from her saying "I'm sorry I accused u" and I asked him what she was talking about he said he doesn't know and maybe she has a guilty conscience about the pic and accused him to her friends. We found out the text was an IM so I helped him see what she was talking about. I went through the history to get her IM name and saw that he actually had a convo with her before and after he emailed the pic. the convo they had wasn't bad, just how he found the pic and how each other has been and of course her accusing him of putting it on the p*rnsite.I'm not upset that they talked but I'm hurt that he lied about it. He told me he figured I would get mad and blow up if I saw it was more than a "hey a saw this, bye" with an ex he told me he didn't want anything to do with because she cheated on him multiple times. He swears that's the only thing he kept from me.I wanna believe him as he is open about everything else (lets me go through his phone, phone records, emails, whenever I ask to and has given me passwords to EVERYTHING). But the fact that he lied about something so small makes me worry. What do you think? forgivable?
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
I wouldn't trust him if he is willing to lie about such a thing. Imagine what lies he would tell if someting were actually going on! I look on this differently from most...I think you agree with me!
What Guys Said 1
Sounds like a little white lie to me. I think if you can't forgive him for something as inconsequential as that, then your relationship is shaky at best.
What Girls Said 1
You should definitely forgive him. when you confronted him he told you the truth and even let's you go through his phone, phone records, emails, etc. He told you a little white lie because he didn't want you to get upset and it's obvious he doesn't want anything to do with his ex. he just wanted to tell her about the picture. I think he is being extremely generous letting you go through all his personal stuff and information. clearly he has nothing to hide and you should just let this little lie go. he sounds like a nice guy. oh and don't take this the wrong way but I think you might be just a little crazy to go through all his personal stuff and have his passwords. if you trust him then you shouldn't have to be looking at all that stuff to make sure he's not talking to other girls or whatever