Are there any single good guys out there?
they're stupid and worthless. they have no problems playing with your emotions and manipulating your feelings. they are incapable of being honest and straightforward. they can't have a single conversation that is honest. they're always lying about something or other. they pretend to be the nice guy, the caring guy, the sweet guy, the guy you can also count on and when you fall for them, their truth self appears -- the douche.
isn't there a single guy out there is is genuinely and truly nice? and not just pretending for an ego boost?
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Most Helpful Opinion
80% of the time you'll end up with a jerk because you're looking for someone who's outgoing, probably has their act together, and won't be clingy or change who he is. He has self esteem and doesn't care what you think, and very likely could be a jerk.
The nice guys, are generally more quiet, thoughtful, might not always have a plan, might worry more, be more inclined to being clingy, probably haven't been in as many relationships, and might be more vulnerable. They're the type who'll be more likely to care for you because of various reasons, but they're honest. They're quiet, so you might have to put more effort in, especially when trying to get them to open up about their feelings because, well, they'll feel differently about things and be more worried about what you think because they want you to like them and fear that you might not.
What you're ACTUALLY asking for, is the middle ground - the good guy, who's confident and has self esteem and all that, but also is caring and kind - they're the hard ones to find.
How do you find those guys? Well, look somewhere else from where you have been, and I almost guarantee you won't meet them in a bar. The other problem? A lot of guys in our age group are still discovering who they are and growing into that, a lot of older guys probably seem mature because they've gone through this, but a lot of guys never get there, either.
So, where are they? Probably right where you are, in front of their computer screens. Be more open to people, meet them everywhere you go, make more friends, do things - people are out there, they're just not going to walk up to your door while you're on the computer and say "Here I am!" ...Unless they're stalking you...
What Guys Said 15
Go for the jerk, in the end they will show you more respect then the "I'm such a boring nice guy with no backbone, why won't anyone love me" guy.
From what I hear most from all these whiny nice guys on forums, is if you are the type to get women, have confidence & don'tgive 2 sh*ts what anyone else thinks about you, "your a jerk, or douche. All the rest are nice guys.
to be honest with you the guys that are attracted to you are jerks to start out with, a jerks mo is to start out being nice to a degree that's how he lures the victim in. how ever your probably wading through a stream of nice good guys and not know it because you don't see them as boyfriend material.
you may even have some relatively close to you right now that would make an excellent boyfriend .
ya, someone you've probably put on a back burner somewhere thinking well he's nice and all but I just see him as a friend. yep that guy youput in the friend zone . the guy you see as just a friend , he's the one that seems a little clingy or maybe assexual , or is just to nice to be true. but yet he's the best friend ever . hmmm...
did you know girls in your age group (14-24) make some pretty bad choices in guys. be honest here look at your track record (otherwise why would you be posting this question).
i would even go so far to say thart this guy friend that's in the frind zone would bend over backwards to do anything for you most likely. these guys didn't just become (just friends ) because they thought they wanted or needed another friend in their lives. they were interested in you for more than that (but because of up bring ,teaching of parents mostly of mother saying girls wants a nice guy, and the like ) he may have not expressed himself in ways that more confident guys (the jerks and players and badboys may have) which is why he's now in your friend zone for.
another note of interest as girls like you get somewhat older ?(25-& up) they realize (as your finding out right now) that these type guys aren't for you. so these (just friends type nice guys who generally doesn't get the girl while young) gets noticed (he hasn't changed much since school though basically the same guy yet now all the things he was rejected for while young the girls now see as good qualities for a long term relationship. to bad many of these same girls couldn't see that while young they could have adverted much of the heartache and bad treatment they received from guys they thought were hot ,good looking hunks, popular like jocks,
I've posted a question on here based on this and put the article by a women no less about this kind of thing.
here something to consider
before getting in the next relationship check the guy out (/no not his body lol)
1. how does he treat people in general guys and gals? (poorly and well)
2. how does he treat other girls in school? (poorly or well does he bad mouth any)
3. how does he treat his mom/sister/s /or other female relatives (poorly or well)
4. how did he treat past girlfriends (if known ask them poorly or well)
the obvious answer if any of the above is negatively he'll treat you the same way most likely.
never get it in your head you can change a guy like that. the ratio of success is to small for sucess. am I saying it doesn't occur yes it can happen but only (and I mean only if he wants to and generally they don't) .
They're either taken by someone that found them, alone because they don't get noticed, or are in the process of learning to be an asshole so they get some success with women for once.
That being said, they aren't very likely to be interested in a girl that prematurely hates them. Might want to work on that one.
In the beginning they're all so sweet and great and so nice, but then they change."
Thus they were putting up a show and you didn't see it, probably because you want to believe the show.
Taking some background info on the guy might help you (talking to his exes for instance) If you bought a car or a computer, you'd first gain info too, wouldn't you? Or do you buy on the sales talk?
The old Romans had a saying 'Caveat emptor' (Let the buyer beware) It's still valid.
If I say the following, many, many guys will relate to it:
"I hate women, ... They have no problems playing with your emotions and manipulating your feelings. ... they can't have a single conversation that is honest. they are always lying about something or other. they pretend to be the nice girl, the caring girl, the sweet girl, the girl you can count on and when you fall for them, their truth self appears - the b*tch... Isn't there a single woman out there is is genuinely and truly nice?... "
There's bad people in both genders. I can tell you from my experience. there had been girls I have give everything to, just to be used, manipulated and made feel miserable.
by thinking this way, be careful, it can be self defeating. No man who respects himself will want someone who thinks like you do about men. And normally the good men are the ones who do respect themselves.
A real man, a good man, won't treat you like what you descrive, probably the problem is all in you, for choosing as*holes and not paying attention to the good men. Besides, good men are very selective when they choose their woman. Are you sure you measure up to a good man's expectations?
you really shouldn't put me in that group, I'm not like other guys, I've passed up getting laid a few times because I'm not that kind of guy.
you're judging us all based on the bad judgment you made.
you got played and now its easier for you to blame all men for being assholes than it is to admit that you made a stupid mistake.
this happens so often they even made a movie out of it.
What Girls Said 4
boys are just as confusing as girls are
there just as bitchy as girls are
there like girls in strange ways
you just have to figure them out
get to know them
give them what they want to an extentshow them their boundries
you have to show them you're not to be f***ed with and when you want to be with them you're the only one theyre going to be with
you have to seperate the "jerks" from the "nice guys"
its really just a matter of opinion, who the jers are and who the nice guys are
nice guys aren't always the best guys either
you can't just generalize every guy and say you hate all of them
theres someone for you
Whoa, now not all guys are like that..There are plenty of terrible women out there, not saying that includes either of us, but hey some guys do deserve a chance and should not be put in the "douche bag" category. Just as in really good women, great guys are randomly placed. There aren't specific areas with more or less.