I have been dating a guy for 4 months. He moved in, and was always with me and very loving towards me except he was lazy and would lie about the...
I have been dating a guy for 4 months. He moved in, and was always with me and very loving towards me except he was lazy and would lie about the stupidest things. For example, if food from the freezer was missing, he didn't eat it..Even though I knew he did.
One day we got into a BIG fight about this and I asked him why he lied about things like that. He said that if I thought he was a liar, he was leaving...and he left..Over food. Unreal.
Now he has been texting me all night, every night saying that he knew he was wrong and he regrets leaving me. (1 week ago) He wants no one but me and he loves me very much.
Today I had 2 girls from his job contact me and say that I shouldn't fall for his crap because he has been stalking a girl at work since he left me(not before he left but since then) I confronted him about how he said he only wants to be with me and told him I knew about the girl and he's creeping her out.
He started calling me a loser and swearing and me and saying really awful, nasty things. I don't care, I'm done, its over, but why, this is for men and woman, do guys do such things and try to hurt us when we are already hurt about the lies to begin with. Why the insults? Why the name calling and why try to flip the script?
And no he is not overweight, he's actually very skinny.
I apologize I don't want this to be a man thing, why do people lie(male or female) and then get angry at the person they lied to and become very nasty?
The man, or should I say boy, is not able to accept he is wrong for anything. And though when confronted with the truth, he acts like a petulant boy, and thus blames you for his own shortcomings.
He needs to grow up an accept responsibility for his actions, to tell the truth and to do deal witht he consequences. It is your decision if you continue to mother this boy in the hope he develops into a man, or you leave him to have his tantrums on his own.
In most cases, the reason people do this is because they've been sheltered and protected from the consequences of their actions their whole lives. You see it all the time. A kid does something wrong, and the parents, instead of punishing the kid, will instead argue for him and defend what he did. It teaches the kid that they are never wrong, and that someone else is always to blame for anything "bad" that they do.
What you describe is the act of someone lying and then becoming very aggressive when someone tells them explicitely that they know they're lying. To me he tries to turns things on you so you back down (for example trying to appeal to your sense of guilt for daring calling him a luar). Once that leads nowhere he gets very aggressive and try that route. Once that has failed, he then comes back all nice and asks for forgiveness and tells you all kind of sweet things and compliments. He basically try to manipulate you in different way until he finds something that works.
To me these people are expert manipulators and they believe they can do as they please and lie about anything without having anybody daring coming and confronting them about it.
Watch out for yourself because it seems to me he's just playing with you without caring about you at all.
Well my dear not all men or women are the same. I've had nothing but bad women my whole life . But that never stopped me from trying to get back into the grove. You deserve a whole lot better anyways . “To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.”
I've expereinced something like this too often. That person feels guilty for lieing and kinda feels bad about themselves so then they try to explain what they did by belaming it on another person. Eithier that or they think your stupid enough to believe them. Eithier way it's not good.