If the guy is what most women would call good looking and in shape, but is more on the 'innocent' and quiet side?
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I'm not attracted to shy/quiet men whatsoever. Dated one, will never do it again. Too much damn work and little to no pay off. I consider it my worst relationship to date. Outgoing men are more like me.
i think that's great that you're waiting until marriage and that's your choice and yours only! I am 20 and a virgin as well and honestly it depends on the guy himself. if I knew a guy was saving himself then I wouldn't want to tempt him and I would respect his wishes and morals. I mean I would want a guy to respect mine as well. respect is a two way street. you have to give to get :) good luck. friend me if you want!
I was shy a long while ago, and had a few girls pursue me. They gave up after a couple months.
So honestly, some girls WILL try to get something going, but it's up to the shy guy to be a man and take control of himself by shifting the seduction back his way. Guys have to play the dominant role and get what they want, while the women play the submissive feminine role and submit to his frame.
i don't think girls are attracted to "innocent" side. I tend to be quiet but I am definitely not innocent by any means. I think you're trying to convince yourself/justify that girls will tolerate your lack of experience and shyness (both very non-confident things, which is the opposite of what girls like).
i know a guy who is physically a good looking guy I guess, in fact he put up pictures on a dating site and told me he got a lot of messages. I believe it because all you can judge in a picture are looks (an "about me" paragraph can't really capture your character and who you really are as a person), so just based on looks I'm sure he got girls' attention. the thing though is that he is really such a dork in real life lol. I am not even trying to be mean, I like him but really he is just pretty awkward, too "nice guy"-ish, has no social grace I guess, especially with women. this is exactly what gives him problems and what turns girls off (it's true that girls care more about character/personality than looks alone).
so to go back to your question, if you think you're in this kind of situation, just be more talkative and less "innocent" (what exactly do you mean by "innocent" though? I assume you're basically saying you are not as much of a rebel or risk-takers as some other guys. be smart but don't be a pussy). be yourself but fine-tune yourself to be more desirable to women by being more confident, brave, aware of proper social etiquette, etc. this will far outweigh being just good looking and in shape.