Why is he becoming distant towards me?
Hi guys okay so my ex is my first boyfriend and we went out for 5 months, then we broke up, then we started talking again and then another situation happened and we didn't talk again (it was his fault) then out of no where he calls and ask for his friend, later on when we started hanging out he admitted that he was really calling for me and not his friend. since we been hanging out, things were going good and we even discussed many and many of times that were going to get back together when the time is right. He just enrolled into school and he wants to focus on school and getting himself together. At first I was mad, but realize I can't be selfish, so we continue to hangout out, even though we are not committed, I still treated him as if he was my boyfriend and he did the same. we tell each other that we love each other and I feel that he really does care and have feelings for me, but recently we were on the phone and he started off by telling me how much he really "liked" me. Wf? then he said he will continue telling me later. I ask him in person or on the phone, he says in person. ugh! that confused the hell out of me! AND on top of that he's became very distant, less texting, less calling, having major side conversations while he is on the phone with me, tells me he going to call back, but doesn't. I'm am sooo confused, I accept what's happening, but still confused. I was there for him, and gave my heart to him once again and we both have a good time when we hangout. I feel that he cares, but why is he acting like this when things were going soo well? He even said things are going soo good? CONFUSED! Please help, my parents already gave me good advice, but I would like to hear other opinions, ideas, and advice, so please respond to my message, I would really appriciate it! thanks!
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What Guys Said 1
Boys are stupid, honestly. If he's not the most confident guy he probably thinks that you don't feel the same even though you say you like (or love?) him. We can ignore even the most direct signs and get confused over our own feelings.
Basically to me it sounds like you two were together and broke up over a minor thing. Maybe you two weren't together a long time? But still you like each other and the way you describe it you two like each other pretty much.
He called you, but he didn't come up with the truth right in spot. It simply means that he's unsure about how you'd react.
I think it's in your best interest to maybe just go over to his place at evening (not too late) when you know he's alone so you two can talk. Be direct, tell him that you still have more feelings for him than friendship and that you'd like for you two to work 'it' out.
Ask him what's going through his mind and tell him what's going through yours.
In the end it's pretty likely that you'll be seeing each other more often, again, and that you'll talk more. This will be the time where you will learn if it is friendship or more.
When you feel both of you made up your minds tell him. If he's a shy/unsure guy he most likely will find it really hard to come up with it first ;)
hope I helped a bit.
What Girls Said 1
He may not be confident and is probably concentrating on his new school. Just give him a bit of time and space so that he can settle in to his school. Send him a message asking how he is and let him know that you care about him and if he ever wants to talk you are there for him.
If he does not reply, don't worry, it probably means that he is busy. He may need some time to think and have space. Guys don't express there feelings as much as girls and can often freak out or get silly over things.
Just don't worry, its nothing that you have done.
If he does not reply to your txt, do not text him again for another couple of days other wise he will feel like you are crowding him. Any messages you do send him, just keep them light, asking how he is and how things are going. If he replies asking him if you can meet up and talk. If you do, just speak to each other alone. Be open and honest and let him know how you feel and say that you need to know how he feels so that you know where you stand.