He doesn't want commitment?
He says he loves me but doesn't want commitment?
Last December I met a guy at Starbucks and we completely "hit it off." We were totally into each other. We started hanging out about 4-5 times a week and about a month into things we decided we wanted to be in an exclusive relationship. Things kept going really well, he helped me train for a marathon, we ran across the state of Florida together, took trips to the east coast to surf.
About six months into things, he slowly started "backing off." For instance, he started hanging out with his friends more instead of seeming interested in seeing me. We were still hanging out quite often though. I brought up my concern that he was losing interest and he said, "I just don't want to be in a really serious relationship, but I love you."
Here's the scenario: every Friday night he wanted to go out with his guys, and I was always invited, but if I didn't want to go then we would not hang out. It was like "his way or the highway." So anyway, we broke up, but about 3 months after being "friends" we started hooking up again. And now today, one year after meeting him, we still "hang out" like we are dating, but we aren't. I occasionally bring up "if you are really into me, why don't you want to date?" and he still says he loves me but wants to take things slower and doesn't want commitment (he has about 6 single guy friends).
So am I wasting my time? I am happy the way things are now, but every now and then I get frustrated that he's getting exactly what he wants. We both agreed to not see other people, but I still cannot figure out where this is going?! he is a genuine, honest, smart, fun guy... Who I want to believe, but I always hear everyone saying that is he were into me, then I wouldn't have doubts like this. what do I do?
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