My fiancé and I just got engaged about 2 weeks ago. My mom tells me that she likes him but has nothing nice to say about either of us. There have been a few times over the past year and a half where my fiancé has wanted to take my phone and rip her a new one because she has been so verbally abusive towards me. When I told her she got engaged she got super mad at me for not telling her sooner and claimed she was the last to know. I told her about it before I told anyone else. She then told me I was selfish for getting engaged 2 weeks before my brothers high school graduation.
Once we got back into town from our trip she asked me to have lunch which I agreed to. There she acted like nothing had ever happened and was so excited about the engagement. Then she would ask me what my fiancé and my plans were for the wedding and she told me that it was all wrong. She didn't like the date we picked and told me it would be better to do it on the same day we graduate college instead of a week later. She also told me that she didn't like a bunch of other ideas as well. We want to keep our wedding small and on the less expensive end but she wants us to have this big one and not help pay for it. I don't know how to talk to her about it and tell her that this isn't ok anymore. It never was ok but now that I'm 20 and haven't been living with her for 2 years it has got to stop. Everyone else is happy for us and willing to help but she wants it her way or her way.
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All you need to say this the day we have booked it for and this what's happening. If you can make it that will be good if not see you next time we are all free to meet up.0