I do everything my hubby asks of me and then some. I stand up for myself, but I also manage to give in most of the time. Yet, he is never pleased. We've been married seven years. Does the way he's acting mean he's not in love with me anymore? I'm trying not to feel insecure, but I can't help it sometimes.
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You do not give much information except that he is not pleased in general and makes you give in to his unspecified demands. I have considered that you've already expressed your concern to him, that there is no "other woman" in the picture, and that you have no children.
After seven years of marriage he may be evaluating his place in the world and finds himself lacking. He possibly finds himself tense and pressured by the outside world and you become an easy target as the little wife he can pick on to regain his self-respect. In other words, it is him and his own self-doubt. Not you. This is just conjecture and guessing on my part.
The primary difficulty here, though, is not his behavior but your feelings about the relationship. He owes you respect as his wife, and if he does not give you due respect he cannot respect himself. If he is picking on you, demeaning you, or otherwise being disrespectful, you absolutely must show him that you are a sentient being and refuse to be subjugated like a pet. You may have to shout and argue with him to regain your self-respect, but you must assert yourself.
If his surly behavior rises to a point of violence you will have to be strong and call an end to the relationship. Forgive me this banality, but you must love yourself before he can love you.0