I'm 19 years old, and my parents are going to marry me off to a 28-year old guy, who, I found out, also didn't have a say in the matter. I had planned to protest, but when I met the guy I really liked him. He was attractive, and pleasant, and now, I'm confused. Also, it turns out that a couple of cousins in his family had planned to be married to him, but he rejected them, so should I expect hostility from them, since in my culture, families are quite close. Is it wrong that I suddenly really like him, or is the feeling superficial? Please help.
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well, sister it is a hot topic and an important one in today's life,
the arranged marriage has some benefits and some flaws and these depend on how people see it and what factors are taken into consideration.
our parents, who have faced more tough problems and times, and know what type of guys exist in the world, and what are best for their daughters, they want their daughters in good hands, to be cared, loved, looked after, and she taking care for him and his family.
if we don't like the person one should reject, as its your life at stake, not your parents, or anyone else s thoughts. also in Islam it is a right of a girl to reject a guy if she doesn't like him.
you should not just go for looks, that's what happen a lot today and later results in divorce, you should look at his character, his habits, his thinking, how he treats someone lower to him, like waiters, beggars, how he treats his parents, guys who are more successful than him. his way of looking at you, and what he believes in, also you should look at his moral standards, and how he views his faith. you should arrange an activity with his family to see how they behave.
and brace your self, you will get all anti arranged marriage opinions. i saw your profile and i know you are from same origin as i am. and i do understand how the situation is.
will be more than willing to help you.1
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