Here's the deal. I have been together with my husband for six years and we have been married for a year now. I love him deeply. He's my best friend. But now for the first time I have a serious crush.
The guy I have a crush on is my coworker. I didn't like him at first. In fact we worked months together, ignoring each other. But suddenly he was moved to my team and we got to know each other better... and the more I know him the bigger my crush gets.
The good news: he doesn't give a damn about me. At least that's how it seems. He doesn't seem to seek conversations with me or hang around with me just to talk. So the chances that this crushing feeling is mutual is pretty non-existing. I'm clearly not his type, and I am also six years older then he is (not saying that age matters, but six years is quite a big age difference).
However, I would like to make friends with him. I don't have many friends, next to nothing honestly. I just very rarely find people I really, really like. And I happen to like him, a lot.
So now I am a bit confused what should I do.
Is it a bad idea to befriend him more since I do have a crush on him... even though he doesn't seem to care about me that way?
Or is it a bad idea to give up, to take some distance, even though he is the first person in years I really want to be friends with. Friends are important too, and I've been feeling crazy lonely for a long, long time. My husband is awesome, but he doesn't really replace a healthy social life...
Can you be just friends with someone you have a crush on? Can you get over with the crush with time?
Gosh. I spent way too much time thinking about this... I doubt he even really wants to be my friend, even though the converstations we have are pretty amazing and he seems to enjoy them... I just think that maybe he talks with me because he is basically STUCK with me. I don't know if he would even speak with me otherwise :D
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to make new friends, but... if you're kind of crusing on this one, I would probably suggest going out with your husband instead or maybe going to do fun activities like joining a club for an outside tennis deal-io or even if you're religious getting more invovled in church, or heck going out to a Zumba class and making some new girlfriends.0