I have been friends with this guy for four years. We first stated hanging out every weekend because when we met initially, we both were having relationship problems. I'm 29 he's 25. At first I wasn't interested in him but he kept me occupied as I was going through a difficult time with my bf at the time and we turned out being really good friends. We can talk for hours and just have good chemistry. Well he got married a year ago and I'm now single; we recently turned our relationship into a now sexual one. He has an 9 month son. We both say that we're in love and don't want to let go. I know this is morally wrong and I am fighting trying to let it go, it's just really difficult because of the emotional bond. I want him to leave but he always says it's not that easy and ask if I'm going to help with alimony and child support. I feel this is a cop out and that if he really wants to go, he will. I am torn between what my mind KNoWS what I should do and what my heart wants to do. Anyone that has been in this situation, please offer your advice.
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he's a guy with kids no he is not a man if he's sneaking around his wifes back cheating on her and not breaking up or well divorcing her after cheating on her with u he could have done the right thing by owning up to his mistake and being loyal to one of u guys but he isn't and you don't think he may not be doing stuff with his wife and u at the same time sounds like ur looking for committment but you won't get much from a married man and thats the truth if anything he's gonna do whatever i takes to make his wife happy so he doesn't half to deal with child support or her mad at him and if u care about him u will think of his son instead of him cause in order to be with anyone with kids u need to understand the kid will always come first like it should but u need to think about his son and put yourself in his wifes shoes because if u were married u wouldn't want ur husband doing that to u people make mistakes but u gotta learn from this quick before u get into a lot of drama u don't need in your life my moms friend was in this situation she got hurt and eventually got tired of being second and nothing toward his wife and no he wasn't gonna get up and leave when she said leave its not easy and never will be0