I am a 28 year old female. My bf is 34 and has been married before. I just had his first child. A baby girl 5 months old and i have a 6 year old from previous relationship. Me and him have been together for a year and 3 months now. We live together in our own house. He does so much for our family and takes care of the kids so well. We both work full time. When we first got together he assured me i would be his wife and when he got the money the ring was mine. Well since then we have fell into a bunch of arguments about different things. no relationship is perfect. We have never cheated on each other nor do i have a reason to believe he has. I asked him about 3 months ago about marriage and he says he not ready yet! Big change from what was said before. He calls me his fiance to others but haven't proposed. I know we haven't been together long but our relationship is like weve been together forever. He says he wants to spend his life with me but is not ready for marriage yet. Im obsessing over this and dont wanna mess up what we have because of my impatience! All of my friends are ENGAGED or married. Am i waiting for nothing? Or do i need to chill? Of course u guys dont know him or me but i just need to know if i am tripping or is he giving me these mixed messages?
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Honestly if he said it then he likely means it especially since you've been together so long. Likely he is gonna surprise you with it on a birthday or something. The more you ask about it the more it's gonna stir things up. He more than likely wants it to slap you in the face though and he is probably waiting for an opportunity to do it when your finances are all straight and he has plenty of free time to plan things out and make the wedding the best that he possibly can.1