My husband is a officer at the military and he put rules to everything in the house even to our children! he force us to sleep early and wake up early and there's rules for food too even if he's not with us. I can't invite my friends at any time. the point is my children living in hell and he can't see that. i don't know how to discuss it with him or what to do. it's not like i don't love him but i want to change him. He's a good man and i really love him but i wish that i can change him for the best.
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It's High time you sit this Hitler down and have a long serious talk with him about how you feel, about his overbearing Gestapo ways, for if you Stand for this much longer, you will always be Stooping for whatever poop plans he decides to throw your way.
You need to start taking some charge here yourself. You need to Now start being your own little boss a 'Straw boss' in fact, and show him that this 'Tyrannical tyrant' behavior has Got to stop.
Many men in the military are like this. I have a cousin whose husband is in as well, and over the years, for they have kids as well, he has become a bit over the boundary big mouthed, and believe me, she has had to deal with him more than a few times. It even got to the point where he would become physical with her. That is when the line would be crossed, of course. He is Now in Anger Management classes.
If the kids are 'Living in hell,' I would well imagine you are too. You have to grow a back bone, stand up to him, and if he refuses to 'Back' Down or even compromise in this family, give him his walking papers for awhile and take the kids somewhere so he can think things over and perhaps come to his stubborn senses.
He has to know there is a new Sheriff in town... Stick to your guns.
Good luck. xx3
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