This military man age 28 was seeing me for three - four months we were dating. It was long distance because he was stationed at a different state (yes we have met in person and we did not meet online) (we went on a date in person). Short version of this long story. He told me he was single during the time we were dating. He was nice. However, he knew I was coming to his state (I was visiting friends). But he told me he would not be there until september. But he was there in August and so was I and he did not reach out to me. My friends live practically down the street from him. During this time he didn't contact me for two weeks and I contacted him because I was worried and wanted to make sure he was ok.
He told me that he was there in his state and kept the texting short. Then told me hours later that "I am sure we will have our chance". Then he marries someone else within these two weeks of no contact. I cut him off after that because I was hurt and devastated. NOW a month and a half later he contacts me with "hey you!". I didn't respond back because he is married. But also this shows that not only does he not respect me but he does not respect his wife or himself.
Just for you all to know lol I am 21, still never had sex (he knows this), never had a boyfriend. I did not have sex with this guy just kissed him when were dating. He was the first guy I dated.
I just need some advice on this and some understanding. Am I doing the right thing? WHY is he still contacting me if he is married? It really disgust me that he did this. I really feel bad for his wife she is beautiful and deserves so much more and so do I. I am young and still understanding things and men. Thank you so much for your time in helping me with this crappy situation. I just never delt with this before.
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He wants his birthday cake and eat it too. He does not feel that cheating on his wife to see you is wrong. He won't think twice about cheating on you in future to see someone else. It's nice you found someone to care about. It's better you found out his true nature, before getting more involved. I advise you to run away from this guy, he is not respecting his new wife and so he is focused on his feelings and not care what he does to others. There are guys in the world who would not do this. Keep looking and find someone else. Tell him to stop contacting you and block him. If you don't, I predict you will feel like the ball inside a pin ball machine in a year or two.3