How do i get my wife to understand that i need to be dominated
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1. Tell her
or... if that defeats the purpose in a way because to do so requires a bit of dominance on your part, you could in a playfully way (or in some way that she won't confuse with just starting an argument) tease her by saying no (even when you mean yes), and maybe challenge her a bit when she tries to get her way, like "what makes you think ill let you do that?" etc. I know at first its probably not the banter you ideally want maybe because the I dare you sort of attitude of challenging her like that seems like you are struggling to overpower her. But you're really not doing that so long as you maintain enough restraint to submit before she does. What it does do though is set up a context in which I think most people naturally respond to by trying to prove they can. As when ur a kid a someone on the playground tells you you can't play in their game or that you dont know how to do something. The usual response (even if its not true is), "Yes I can" or "yes I do". In other words if you can think of how to hit a nerve in your wife to provoke that "I told you so", "we'll see about that" kind of attitude in your wife, she might very well naturally try to dominate you without you having to say it outright. Then when you guys are done you can comment to her how that was fun and you liked it. And most women will be flattered and feel good about themselves when their man shows she satisfies him, and will probably embrace the S&M-esque power dynamic, even grow to like it in her own way.
just as an aside though, I wouldn't discount that you might like to be the one in control yourself. Many sociology scholars who have studied the dynamics of sex and s&m influenced sexual interaction point out that ultimately it is the "slave" not the "master" who is really in control of that situation. As we are thinking from within the context of consensual sex as opposed to rape or some sort of criminal sexual act against someones will, it is the one who submits who0