I am unaware of what we can't and can do.
Please explain this to me.
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As a Catholic, I would be happy to explain these things to you :-)
I must first say this, though. I mean no offense to anyone here, but if you want an honest, objective, and most importantly, complete answer to a question about Catholic teachings on matters like this, GAG is not the place to go.
The short and direct answer is this: The same things that men aren't supposed to do either. Have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, use contraception, masturbate, watch p*rn ... you get the idea.
The long answer? I probably won't have enough space here, but I'll do my best...
True, there are a lot of restrictions on what we can and cannot do before (and sometimes, even after) getting married. To the untrained ear - and the untrained heart - they might seem like rules that are silly, arbitrary, and outdated. However, if you take a deeper look, you see a great beauty in it. You won't see so much obeying "rules" as you will fulfilling a covenant, that covenant being with your future husband.
Virginity is a fixed point. Purity, however, is an ongoing process which can be practiced by both virgins AND non-virgins. Things like anal or oral sex, "dry humping", and exchanging "nudes" are, according to the Church, impure. The question is then are you looking for simple pleasure or the truest and most authentic love?
Hmmm, I actually did it! Well, kind of. There's so much more to be said though. If you'd like, you may feel free to send me a private message and I'd be more than happy to help you :-)2