"Women get married thinking he will change and he doesn't. Men get married thinking she won't change and she does."
What do you think of this saying? I think some comedian said it, so I don't think it's serious, but sometimes it seems there's truth to it.
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Change is inevitable in a relationship, especially a relationship such as marriage.
A big problem that I see is that before marriage, a guy and a girl will be so set in their own ways that a complete bond doesn't seem likely. This is why I have such a big problem with people saying "we need to do x, y, and z so that we can find out if we're compatible". That, in my opinion, causes one, if not both of them to in some way look each other and wonder "what will I get from this", "how will he/she become what I want them to", etc.
A husband and wife each need to be open to the traits and values of the other that make them who they are. The problem I see is, as I said, that there's an unwillingness to do so, whether they realize it or not. There's an unwillingness to be open to the change that will come sooner or later in a marriage.1