So my friend is married to a man in the air force he is 28 and she is 25. He cheated on her with a girl while being stationed at a different state (found out from friend that hangs with him). He told the girl that he was seeing that he was single and promised her things (basically lead her on for three months and even tried to contact her again after his marriage). My friend (guy) told me that the girl he was seeing was very innocent and didn't know. But found out on FB that he had just married my friend and she stopped talking to him. (I feel sorry for her-the girl he lead on)... I feel even worse about how my best friend will handle the news about her husband cheating.
The thing is is that my friend is now pregnant and is having a baby soon. Her husband is acting like nothing is wrong and everything is perfect. It makes me sick to see him act like this and the whole ordeal really. I am afraid to tell her because they are married and a baby is on the way. What can I do? Should I tell her?
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Don't tell her, at least not yet. You need proof, as much as you can. Once you have it, & after the baby is born, confront him. Ensure you do it, in such a way, where your safety isn't in jeopardy. Inform him you know the truth, & his wife is going to find out.
Give him the choice: either he tells her, or his wife gets the proof. Give him a SHORT timeframe to do it (24 hours, at most). If he doesn't, give his wife the proof & let her handle it.
In addition, being a servicemember, there are certain laws within the UCMJ that can seriously bite him in the ass, depending on the details of the infidelity. Read up on it, & ensure his wife is informed, after she learns the truth.2