If you had been with your partner for 5 years and have booked your wedding (set date, picked venue, paid deposits) and then they suddenly ask you for a pre-nup to protect their future inheritance from you and said oh expect it come through in a few weeks the family lawyers are writing it up what would you do?
I didn't know that his family were that wealthy yeah they own their home and my partner owns his (which is in his trust funds name apparently so that he can not lose it if he gets married then divorced).
How would you feel?
I am at a low edge he did this right before Christmas then he is ignoring the topic. He went out to watch match on boxing day and said i wasn't invited as men only but turn out they had a party at his cousins after with all his family.
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Sounds completely unfair to you in your update.
Tell him that you feel it's unfair.
If he doesn't see it that way, he's got some huge protection that he can abuse you with. Tell him you feel insecure and need to feel you are being treated fairly.
It isn't about you 'changing' your 'thinking', a sense of unfairness is a sense of unfairness. If he can't put himself in your shoes to feel what you're feeling, then he really isn't ready for marriage with 'pre-nups' yet.
He would do better with a marriage without a 'pre-nup'.
The pre-nup is something to make it fair for both parties, not to give him extra leverage in the 'marriage'. Basically, a properly done pre-nup would make both parties feel 'ALRIGHT, I'm okay with this'.
e. g. A condition that - If you have to stop working for the family's interest, there is something given to you in return, so you don't have to tough it out in a law court if it ever happens, same goes with him so he doesn't have to fight tooth and nail for what is rightfully his to protect against 'gold diggers' (not saying you are one, but that sense of security is what some guys need in today's world).
You can leave him fairly, and he can leave you fairly. (not that we wish for that to ever happen).1