I'm sorry for my bad grammars. English is not my native language.
Me and my BF are in a committed relationship. We both are two Financial Independent adults with our own jobs, I'm 30 and he is 29. The relationship is full of fidelity on both physical & emotional level. There is no third party between us.
He is not the type of guy that talks a lot about his inner feelings. He more of the 'actions' type, than the 'words' type, when he say something, he do it.
Once we passed by a jewelry store; he asked me what kind of wedding ring do I like when we get married. And in the jewelry store, I specificly point to the type of ring I want: the simple classic wedding band ring.
He still remember what I said, so few months ago he end up getting this matching wedding pair band ring for us. It was his idea, he buy the rings out of his own willing.
He wore the ring 24/7 on his left hand. And since he buy the matching rings himself, so pretty much he put a ring on his own left finger, telling everyone that he’s taken.
But he NEVER say the 'official' proposal words to me. Many times he said that: "If you want, we can go register for marriage tomorrow". He said this before, and he still say it now.
He still asked the question often, few times a week. He asked again two nights ago, he just throw it out there, he be like "Baby, if you want, we can go apply for marriage liscence tomorrow."
I just can't seem to find myself to accept this as an 'official' proposal. Seem like he just throw the ball on my court, and let me be the one to decide when I'm ready to want to get married?
Do you coinsider this as he propose? Or do I have propose to him and ask his hand in marriage? Do you think he is the type of guy that "Want a serious relationship, but Not want a marriage?
Due to my tradditional Chinese culture. I wasn't raise to be taught that me as a girl should go propose to a guy, or ask the guy directly if he want to get married.
1. He wants a serious relationship, but does NOT want a marriage.
2. He wants marriage, but he just not declaring it to me with extravagant flowery ways.
I don't want to propose to him, I also don't want to ask him for marriage.
I don't want to force marriage out of a man. Whenever he ready he can propose to me. I can wait for him like I alwayws been waiting. I just that sometmies I wonder what he REALLY wants in his head, or if he even serious at all.
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