Now a days the word "love" is thrown around like it means nothing, it's loosing its value.
And if people who get married claim to be in "love" and claim to be so "happy" that they found their partner for life, and say that marraige will only happen once for them, why do these people get divorced?
I'm not saying all.. But most mairages end in divorce.
Does that mean that it actually wasn't true love? Because true love lasts forever in my opinon.
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People fall in love with the idea of love, and forget that loving the person is what stands the test of time.
For example, take a single woman worried about her biological clock. Already there's a driving force behind her actions that has nothing to do with love. Now, she's an Ivy League graduate and touts herself as ambitious, and she settles for nothing less than a guy with an Ivy League education or better. Again, what's love got anything to do with that? She likes deep voices, a chiseled jawline, a well-tailored suit, and a never-receding hairline. She may love these features, but she still hasn't addressed the issue of love. Does she love the man, or does she love what the man represents? Does she love the idea of marrying his social stature or does she love the idea of being cast away on an island with only each other? He just has to be a half-way decent human being and he makes the cut. He makes her parents proud and her friends envious. That's it. That's what we call love.
Other major variables are timing and placement. He or she was there first. He or she wasn't necessarily the best fit for you, but when you scheduled this class on this day, you two met. If you chose another day, you wouldn't have met. If you didn't work that part-time job, you wouldn't have met. If you weren't born into that religious household, you wouldn't have met through Church.
My parents are an example. My mom was a foreigner that wanted to marry up. My dad was an Accountant, a white American man with zero charisma. Their marriage was a farce and all I witnessed was her disdain for him and his reluctance to give.
Finding real love is hard. Yes one can argue real love doesn't exist, but that's because they aren't willing to do what it takes to find it. You can wait forever for that rare person to enter your life, or perhaps you missed him or her a long time ago.0