I have been with my fiance for 18 months and we recently got engaged. He said he felt good when he asked me. This was 3 months ago. My fiance is 31 years old and is ready for marriage. We are very close and we get along so well we rarely fight. BUT About 25 days ago he disappears and after all day says he needs time to find himself. His friend had picked him up and told him that to him he was worried about me and my fiance being together! So now my fiance hasn't talked to me for 25 days! He opened up to my brother and cried and said he loved me and said he wanted to the separation to be over soon. He even told me he loved me and its not over he just needs to find who he is. What does this mean?
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sounds like he is having his mid life crisis a little early...good thing about it it usually comes around just once. I had mine when I hit 38. I guess you just wonder if things are always going to be the same and it can drive a guy batty.
He might be thinking about switching careers (thats what I did). add to that you guys are going to wind up getting married (big decision) and maybe he feels if he gets married he can't make the changes he needs to make, so he wants to hold off on the marriage but he doesn't want you to get disappointed if he backs down...the irony is he made sure you became disapointed...which is something he wasn't aiming for and trying to avoid.
that's just my 2 cents and that's the lighter side.
there is a darker side but somehow I am not getting the impression he is interested in another woman by reading your story. I think he is just questioning his life and where it is going.
Disclaimer: doesn't mean he is thinking of suicide, he is just ready to make some big changes in his life and doesn't know how yet. I'll bet the farm that he is worried about his earning power and wants to change that for the better.0