I just got married to this guy and he is very cute and handsome. Were are living together from 15 days. He wakes up at 5 am and cooks for himself and for me. He goes to work at 7 am to 4 pm. I don't know cooking very much so he does the 90%. He doesn't talk to me at all... He only replies if I ask him something. When he is at home he does his office work (he is very hard worker... even in school he always got 1st rank... Never ever he got 2nd rank)... or plays games that make me headache. Recently from few days I am getting feelings for him (it didn't happen before marriage we saw each other)... I want to kiss him and yesterday morning I imagined it. I really can't control myself to stop looking at him that doesn't even bother him. How do I get him to talk to me? Please help...
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I don't know much about how wives are suppose to act in your culture toward their husbands so I could be wrong, but I doubt there is any social standard saying you aren't allowed to kiss your husband when you want. If you haven't had sex in your marriage yet then this makes more sense. You may both be nervous of fully embracing your vows, and are worrying about being rejected or judged by each other.
You could try asking him open ended questions that are designed to get him to talk more. The more someone talks the closer they feel to the person they are talking to. Him refusing to talk may be a sign that he just doesn't feel comfortable with you yet.
If he studies and works that hard he might not have much time for developing social skills, so he may be even more nervous about upsetting you, than you are of upsetting him. So you need to make sure he knows he can talk to you without being judged poorly. Maybe when he does say something complement his voice or say something about how smart he is. This should hopefully make him feel more comfortable talking to you.
Touch him in innocent ways to get him use to your touch. Such as straightening his clothes before he goes out, picking a piece of lent off of him, brushing up past him in the hallway. This should help him get use to your being around.
Eventually if he continues not to make progress you may just need to talk to him directly and let him know that you would appreciate him talking to you more often than he does.0