I am in serious relationship for 5 years now. Both in our mid twenties and he proposed me. All my emotions belong to him, and always will. We have very good communication and get along very well .He is a true intellectual. But...
In this relationship all responsibility is on me. I work for both of us, I found us an apartment I initiate sex, make all the big decisions, I pay him clothes, take him to vacations,pay the bills, pay for the gas... He applied for 2 universities in period of 4 years and gave up on studying both times. He has had only one short term job. These are only examples.
Whenever I ask him for opinion(for something small or big) he is like: Whatever you like honey; you decide; do what you think is the best honey....
Should I take the next step - marrige? I feel lost...
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Only you can decide the answer to your question. But given the background you've provided, ask yourself some of the following:
What does he do for you? (For e. g. makes you feel great, makes you laugh, makes you happy, cooks a nicer dinner every now and again).
What does he bring to the table? (For e. g. loyalty, dedication, honesty, integrity, decency, virtues, morals, cash for bills)
Can you imagine the future with or without him?
Do you like his family/friends?
Does he have interests outside of you/the relationship?
What does he say about his future goals?
Do your views align on marriage, babies, home life, family, money, trust, etc?
Do you want to have children with him?
Do you want to be his wife and bear his name?
Can you imagine him being more financially stable in the future?
There are so many factors to consider when thinking about marriage and all you've done is list the things he takes or gets from you.
He may have a wonderful intellect but he doesn't use it to bring in cash; you may have great communication but not enough to spur him into action to get a job; you may get along well but not enough for you to consider not marrying him.
I think we could possibly debate this question over and over again.0