Okay First off me and my boyfriend have only known each other since the beginning of school and I have only been going out with him for almost 4 months. We have talked about marriage numerous times. We are meant to be and I know that sounds stupid but I don't know I just feel so close to him. Is that bad?
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Give it time and ask your parents and/or older siblings about him. If you guys are good for each other, he should respect you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
As far as marriage goes, does he have a job that he can support you with? Would being married to him halt any plans for you to finish school, go to college, etc.?
In my experience (i'm 24), I've seen very very few relationships like yours make it. I'm not saying that yours won't, I'm just saying it's long odds. You're going to change a lot in the next few years - they'll be some of the most formative of your life. So take your time, make sure that you have good memories instead of regrets, and make sure this guy puts a ring on your finger and is solidly committed before you do anything with him. It's a great way to avoid getting hurt and having emotional scars that you'll definitely have to deal with someday when you do get married.
Another couple of good questions:
- do you want your sons to grow up to be just like him?
- do you want your daughters to learn about masculinity and men from him?
- do you want him to lead you through the tough stuff in marriage as well as the fun parts? (by this I mean financial hardships, potential miscarriages, body changes, menopause, death of friends, parents, and eventually each other)
- are you truly considering that marriage is life-long, which brings with it huge implications for character development, trust, and responsibility?
Like I said, take your time and weigh these issues. Emotions are fleeting and do change - don't make a lifelong commitment based on such a short relationship. Make sure his character is pristine and that he will stick with you through the very hard times as well as the great times.1