With happy I mean you still love each other, make love to each other, get along pretty well, support each other... and so on.
For some reason my boyfriend doesn't really believe in marriage and doesn't want to get married one day because "most couples are unhappy or break up and than the man needs to pay for it".
Shouldn't he believe a little more in love and family? It hurts me a little to hear that he thinks that!!
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My parents have been married for 20 years now and they're still very happy. I used to get embarrassed by how lovey dovey they could be, but when I grew out of that. Now if a friend of mine says "That's embarrassing..." I'll usually respond with, "I'd prefer they be overly affectionate than not affectionate at all." I also don't know anyone in my family who has gotten divorced and everyone seems pretty happy to me.
There's only one aunt that I have that wasn't raised in the same home as my mother and she had a really tough childhood. She's still very involved in toxic relationships. For some reason she always ends up with abusive men and it takes a lot for her to leave. We don't understand it, but we always try to help. She was married to this one guy for like 5 years though and we thought she'd finally found a great guy, but then he beat her up really bad to the point that she had to be hospitalized and it ended up coming out that he'd beaten her throughout their entire marriage, they just kept it very under wraps. It's really sad.
Marriages definitely can last but I've learned that they take a lot of work and upkeep. My parents go on dates at least twice a month and I always offer to babysit my siblings because I want them to stay married forever and keep that spark alive lol. It also takes a lot of maturity, because if you do truly love someone and end up getting divorced, you wouldn't try to take all of their money or try to make their lives miserable. You divorce on good terms and wish each other the best, that's healthy. So when people complain about all the terrible things that come with divorce, I just think... Well don't marry a complete asshole then. There are a lot of divorced couples who are very cooperative and keep the children in mind at all times.1