I'm in a bit of a cliche situation. My wife does not get along with my parents (shocker) but I was thinking of visiting them this summer so I asked my kids about it. No plans just asking how they felt. She caught wind of it from my daughter and blew up at me saying I lied cause I didn't ask her.
WTF. These are the facts. What do you think? Any
advice as to how to handle the situation?
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You are in the right. You didn't do anything wrong. You know it, i know it and pretty much the whole world knows it.
Here's the thing though, you also know that your wife has problems with your parents. It's a sensitive issue for her and it will undoubtedly cloud her judgment in anything involving them. By mentioning it to your kids even if just in passing, before mentioning it to her she probably felt like she was being outnumbered or that her feelings were being ignored. So she reacted irrationally and badly. She's only human, and we all mess up.
I'm not saying she's right, just to put yourself in her shoes. I'd make sure to tell her that you didn't do it intentionally to upset her, and that it upsets you to think that she would assume the worst of you.
Please take this all with a grain of salt, I'm not married, I'm basing my advice on a very similar and common scenario played out between my parents when I was a kid and from a kids perspective the situation just seemed like i had two immature and stubborn parents. Again, from a kids perspective and someone who still isn't married.0