I've been dating my bf for three years And I love him a lot he's an amazing guy
but his family are not nice people :( they have tried to break us up because they think "I've been taking him away from the family" his family have made comments about my weight during dinner saying I'm too skinny, if I see his cousins or his family in public they will not say hi or they won't even look at me - it's disrespectful
his sister has told me "idc if you don't want me as a bridesmaid I'll still ruin your wedding just wait" my bf asked her about those comments and she denied it !! Like I'm under enough stress as it is
I cried to my bf this morning because I was so emotionally drained from everything
what should I do? :( :(
- You should not have to deal with that- break upVote A
- You should work things out and try to make it workVote B
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My mother has a difficult relationship with my boyfriend. The truth is that I am the daughter of a narcissistic mother and she would be against any guy I date, so it's not something personal. She has made up lies about my boyfriend (that she stole from her) and tells me that he is cheating on me (which is isn't for sure). She is trying to break us up and it's very frustrating at times. But the worst for me is if my boyfriend broke up with me because of my mother. So don't break up with him. It's not his fault that his family is like that! I know it must be hard, but don't punish him for something that he has no control over.
I didn't vote on your poll because my vote would be C: You should not have to deal with that – stay with him and forget about his family.
I know it's easier said than done because his family will alway be a part of his life. But you'll just have to start to exclude them as much as you can. They will be furious for sure, but the more you let them take part in your life, the more they will try to sabotage things. My boyfriend and I aren't planning to get married in the near future, but we've talked about how we would even do it and honestly, I think that due to my mother, I'd marry him without any guests at all since I would not want my mother around but not inviting mum would mean I can't really invite anyone else either.
If I were you, I'd take the boyfriend and move to the other side of the country :D I know that's not really possible (although who knows). But don't let his relatives ruin your relationship!0