At first when I started believing in God and deciding on my own to follow God, I wanted to save sex for marriage because of that, but over time, I ended up having my own desire in wanting to save sex for marriage. I just want to do it with someone I'm committed to and someone who I'll love and I feel like if I do end up having sex before marriage, than I'll end up betraying myself. But I do know that we live in a time when sex is very open and most relationships do have sex before marriage. And I do know that many guys wouldn't want to be with me once they find out that I don't wanna have sex before marriage. But I'm wondering if there are guy with similar mindset ad me and if some of them do wanna save sex for marriage?
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Sure, as if commitment was only possible if you are legally bound with a finger on your hand, and not because you are actually dedicated to each other. Because unless a guy buys two rings and signs a piece of paper, they obviously don't care about you even if you have been dating for 3 years. Other people get married in 4 months just so they can get in each other's pants, I am not sure if that is any more or less saint.
I think it makes sense to want to have someone who is mutually committed to you, but I think it is somewhat half-hearted to claim that your partner is trustworthy only if they make a bureaucratic pact about it - and that so getting out of the relation can take extra hoops and time and money (divorce).
Just because divorce makes separation more difficult doesn't mean it cannot happen. In which case it is odd that so many girls attempt to leverage themselves using physical intimacy as the offer in return for rings, I just find the whole concept roundabout and an obstacle against true mutuality.1