Do you believe a man can fully serve two families? In other words if a man has a wife is he more obligated to her or his intermediate family? I'm asking because my boyfriend was the type to always be there for his family financially. When we got together he told me he plans on making me his wife and started focusing more on us financially. He also continued to be there for them the best way he could but worked towards our future together. They became very resentful of our relationship and treated him wrong. Their attitudes became like forget what you did for me what are you doing lately. Or your not doing enough. It really bothers me to see him go through this. He wants to be accepted and loved by them regardless. We all have the same 24 hours but they think his belongs to them. We all grow up and make our own families which his sister have and parents. Its like they want him to make up for all their slack and leave him with nothing while they run along with whoever they are with. The sisters keep having kids by no counts so we watch the kids constantly but they still aren't satisfied so he just stopped. They don't like me and show it but expect me to jump when they need something. I do but it's getting old. If I have to go to school and tell them I can't do something they get mad at us and want include us in their lives. I don't want to only be liked based on what I can do for you. Treat me how you want but not him he doesn't deserve it. He loves them but now he loves a women too and they are so jealous and nasty about it. I believe it's because he's a good man and they are hard to come by. None of them have been blessed with this not even his mother. The father threw all his slack on my fiance. I really tried for him and to be liked but I'm washing my hands now.
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Family loves and supports you regardless of financial contributions. If they only want him in their life because of how much money he gives them or how much help you both give them, that's not right or okay. It means they're using both of you.
At this point I don't think it's a matter of choosing yourselves over them. It's keeping up with the needs you have for yourselves in your own lives.1
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