I love my husband, we have been together for over 5 years. He has changed a lot since we have been married and we have a son together. He can be really sweet sometimes but for the past few months he is just angry or unhappy. He never looks at things positive and I am normally very positive. When I try to kiss him unexpectedly hr looks grosses out and wipes it off but says its because he wasn't expecting it and doesn't like surprises. Every time we have sex he wants it to be fast and doesn't want to do anything to lead up to it and its over fast. He tells me he lives me and he is just really stressed. Recently my body is starting to reject his touch and I have a response to make move his hand. And I know this is bad but i had I was having an affair and didn't care but I don't want things to end this way. I don't ever want to hurt him that way and I want us both to be happy in our marriage. I just want to fix it but I'm not sure how to. I love him and I know he loves me but it is getting really hard sometimes. I want to think about the good things about our relationship but every time I think about it, I think of the bads things. Any advice on how to make it through this? Please nothing downing me. Thank you
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It sounds like he's stressed or depressed and needs help and I hate to say it, you ignored the signs.
I'm sorry. I'm been on the receiving end of a divorce (my parents) and been cheated on. I can't agree with what you've done but that's not to say I don't understand. Cheating destroys a family. You should tell him, but you should find out whats wrong first. His depression was a catalyst and you sought comfort and sex elsewhere as a result. Sort his depression, you sort the problems. In theory. If what you're saying is true.0