My boyfriend of 8 years recently gave me reason to believe he really wasn't thinking about marriage. I was totally taken by surprise. We have talked about it a bit more since then and he has given me more hope. The book "He's just not that into you" has a great quote in it - "Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn't want to get married or doesn't believe in marriage, or has "issues" with marriage, will ... rest assured ... someday be married. It just will never be with you." I'm thinking about getting it for him for Christmas (along with some better presents), maybe he would learn something about how he's actions are perceived.
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A book won't solve the problem, and the intended message will most likely go right over his head. And I can tell you for a fact (being as I'm, well, a man) that that quotation is false--a guy can have "issues" with marriage, but work through them with his girl and eventually end up marrying her. The quote is probably assuming a guy who has those "issues" hasn't played the field to his satisfaction yet, but not all guys absolutely have that need. He may just need time, along with your understanding, and he may come around and realize you are "the one" after all. Honest, open communication about things, and patience, are the keys.0