I have no problem with their values or strong beliefs, I think its amazing. I hear a lot from other people that they are very outdated a. k. a. oldfashioned but in my opinion... Why does it matter, its not their lives, its the person who has taken this oath. Like how this world is evolving today with all new possibilites and acceptance they should be treated the same way with respect and admiration. I always have been told what you don't know you can learn. If you Love someone you will try... thanks S.
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First I applaud your compassionate heart. Second I have to oust your views as idealistic. Society changes because of controversial opinions and persuasion. Sometimes the persuasion is done rudely but your options are either allow for rude persuasiveness or disallow opposing the status quo. People disagree with abstinence for the reasons you've already stated. It's a practice that is old outdated and stem from arbitrary and awkward beliefs about the world. There is nothing truly gained from waiting other than ignorance. You're ignorant of what it feels like to have huge regret after sex (even with those you thought you loved) that is until you've already been bound to this person for life. You're ignorant of what good and bad sex for you feels like because you've never experienced sex with anyone but this person that you've been bound to for life. You're ignorant of how much having the right sexual partner can make a difference because you only experience this one person. You're ignorant of your own sexual desires which may never have a chance to be explored now that you're married. Also if you're for waiting you tend to avoid those with more sexual experience limiting your sexual knowledge and dating pool. And what do you gain from this ignorance? Most of the time the benefits are linked back to God but what happens if you stop believing in God? So what about the benefits that don't involve God? Are there any truthfully? I guess you don't have to worry about your partner leaving you over bad sex... but I guess they still can. But at least your first time will be special which I guess doesn't guarantee it won't be bad though. Maybe you get the benefit of knowing they love you first... unless they only married you because it was the only way they thought they could have sex and you were good enough. To be honest I couldn't find any positives that were logical instead of cultural. Maybe you can. But either way people converse and persuade and just like there was animosity to those that had premarital sex at one time now there is animosity towards those that don't. And now those that felt they were in the right are feeling the shame that was thrown on those once treated as in the wrong. To be honest though there's never been a culture devoid of premarital sex just those that shamed it. Its your choice to have sex or not and I'm not gonna mock you for doing one or the other but I do gave an opinion. It's not a perfect world but it is still overall a good one.1
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Those people are allowed to have the opinion that marriage is outdated. You don't have to agree and that's fine. On the flip side, why does it matter to you if it does that those people don't agree about what you think about marriage? You're both allowed to have differing opinions.
I know a nudist who believes that due to the original institution of marriage and women were essentially treated as cattle, even though it has changed, it's still sexist. He's male just to clarify. He even thinks that women changing their name is sexist. He's free to have his views as are you.0