Can they handle a family with responsibility and change thier habits acyually?
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Im going to tell you a little thing called science. And thats Hebb's rule, Hebb's postulate, and cell assembly theory.
"Let us assume that the persistence or repetition of a reverberatory activity (or "trace") tends to induce lasting cellular changes that add to its stability.… When an axon of cell A is near enough to excite a cell B and repeatedly or persistently takes part in firing it, some growth process or metabolic change takes place in one or both cells such that A 's efficiency, as one of the cells firing B, is increase"
What this means is, everything in your life can become an addiction. This goes beyond mere habit.
Does this mean you cannot change? No. It just means the odds are you won't, because of the difficulty of the nature of the way the brain rewards repeat action.
What this simply means is you are taking a HUGE risk when you marry someone who smokes, expecting them to change, someone who sleeps around a lot expecting them to change, someone who eats a lot, someone who plays video games a lot, etc.
Ideally you should marry someone hoping they stay the same, not expecting them to change.
Most men marry women hoping they stay the same, both physically and mentally.
(which they dont)
ANd most women marry men hoping to CHANGE Them. (which they often dont, and when they do, most of the time they lose attraction for them.)
The woman who changes a man was attracted to the man who was unchangeable, BECAUSE he was unchangeable. And when he gives in, he's no longer the man she was attracted to.1