As far as we know, human beings are the only things in the universe that marry. Why? It's not like a requirement to have sex or children. Some of us know that all too well. So why is it such a blessed miracle and unwritten law for 2 people to marry at some point in their relationship? Is it just that official title?
What is your reasoning?
- For religious reasons22% (2)0% (0)17% (2)Vote
- To make our relationship "official"44% (4)33% (1)42% (5)Vote
- Family/peer pressure0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
- Traditional reasons11% (1)0% (0)8% (1)Vote
- Other23% (2)67% (2)33% (4)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
Theoretically, marriage is a social construct that isn't really required for procreation or societal solidity. But that being said, it's a ritual pretty deeply entrenched in all human society. Most tribes have some sort of marriage ceremony as both a rite of passage into the next phase in one's life and a singal to other interested parties that both individuals are no longer available for the taking. I suppose in prehistoric caveman days it was more of a business arrangement than anything else- men protected the women, women were able to carry men's children. It was still kind of a business arrangement up until about mid-20th century when the suffrage movement granted women more freedom and independence- then marriage became a symbol of commitment and love in a relationship.
Personally, I still see marriage as a kind of rite of passage for me- like moving out, getting a degree, getting a good job, having kids. It's part of what I want for myself in life. Why marriage exactly? Basically, I see marriage as a sign of commitment and agreement that we're on the same page- if we get married, it means we both want to take the same general path in life. I can date a guy, sleep with a guy who doesn't want kids, but I would never be able to marry one. Marriage says "we plan to spend the rest of our futures together and we want the same things out of those futures". Now obviously, it doesn't always work out that way- sometimes you realize you DIDN'T want the same things or life changes you and you grow apart. But to me, marriage signifies that we plan to go through life together and work at continuing to be on the same path. Moving in doesn't say that for me- it says I love you, I'm committed to you to a point- an undefined point because it doesn't signify a new phase in your life, just your relationship.
BUT, that being said, I don't see anything wrong with people who don't believe in marriage- you have to do what feels right in your life. I just wouldn't ever stay in a long term relationship with one because we want different things...3