There's this guy I like at work. Here's the problem(s) 1. He's married 2. I'm engaged 3. He works 3 jobs 4. I work P/T and we work together 2x a month because of our positions in the field we're in.
He tells me ''I'm the only one'' besides his wife he's doing. He is surrounded by pretty women in all 3 jobs, but I'm very attractive but very insecure when I'm around him. I don't trust him. He tells me that I'm the 3rd person he's been with since his marriage.
How much can I believe him? How much can you trust someone if their ''covering things'' up cause I don't think he wants to hurt me BUT I feel like he already has. What do I do and how do I handle this situation?
I do love my fiance, but this guy swept me off my feet with his personality and sexuality.
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Can you answer this question and I am not being critical. Why are you having the affair in the first place? From your words my impression is that you've already cheated on your fiance. These questions are really for married women who have affairs and they may not exactly apply to you but here they are.
Is your fiance lame in bed? Does your fiance not give you enough attention? Does your fiance not say "I love you enough?" Does your fiance not cuddle with you at night? Does your fiance just watch TV and ignore you? Do you get in arguments with your fiance over little things that are really not worth arguing over? Does your fiance not help pay his share of the bills? Can your fiance give you good sex and make you orgasm (most of the time anyway)? Does your fiance not help you with household chores? In general will your fiance be a good husband?
Does the man who you are having an affair with have something that you are missing in your relationship? Is this other man very interesting and exciting to talk to? Does this other man make you laugh, whereas your fiance does not? Does this other man have something that you need that your fiance does not have such as charm, conversation skills, a sense of adventure, spontaneity, or just plain good sex? Does this other man compliment you and make you feel like a woman and make you feel beautiful, whereas your fiance doesn't say a damn thing?
There must be something missing in your relationship for you to have an affair in the first place right? You cannot be so selfless to cheat on a good man who is actually good to you and shows it; can you? Should your fiance be surprised that his future wife is cheating on him because he is not treating his future wife as a good future husband should?
I have this strong suspicion that a large number of men who get cheated on deserve it and had it coming. Is your fiance an example of this? REALLY is there anything your fiance can do or do more of to make you not want to even think about cheating on him? Maybe your integrity has something so do with it, but if your fiance swept you off your feet with his personality and sexuality would you still have the affair?0