I know it can vary, but I want to know what other people think.
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I think it's when you know you're with the right lerson and that's the life you want. I also think that as people get older, the amount of time it takes to know these things can be a lot smaller. You'll notice a lot of the ones saying like 5 years are in their late teens early twenties, and at that age I felt the same way, and I think that's good because if you start dating at that age, you're gonna change a lot in the next several years so you should be able to change together if you're gonna get married to that person. But by the time you're pushig thirty you're more sure of who you are and what you want in life, so it may not take as long to know if the person you're with is someone you want to build you life with or not.
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and while I'm not at thw point where I'm looking for a proposal, I woulf say yes if he did, but make it a longer engagement. I woulf be very surprised though if he did and a bit caught off guard. However, once we're past the year mark I would be a bit less surprised and definitely would say yes. I won't start really expecting it til year two though, and by that point we'll be living together full time and likely will have seriously discussed marriage already. Right now we spend 4 of 7 nights a week together and would like to be living together, but where our jobs are located and where the house he owns is makes it difficult. I don't currently have a car and his mortgage term isn't up for another year. If I moved in where he is now I would need to buy a car and my commute would be really long. And he can't sell his place without penalty til his term is up. So for now, I essentially live there on weekends but stay at mt apartment due in the week, and he spends Sunday and Wednesday nights at my place.0