Most Helpful Guy
I think it all depends on how you go into marriage. I've often found people who see marriage as a stepping stone or as a goal often have a dwindling marriage later. People who believe in finding the one and living happily ever after often miss out on educating themselves prior to marriage of the inevitable struggles that come along with it and fool themselves into thinking their relationship is unique and will survive or worse they believe when these struggles happen it's definetly a sign that this isn't right and its time to leave. People who believe marriage is something your suppose to do and work to maintain for whatever reason (religion, society, thier kids, their general childhood upbringing) often make it longer than the first group but after a while fall into a pit of a lackluster life filled with sadness and regret like an animal stuck in a hole it dug for itself. But the last group, people who see marriage as an experience and an exercise, tend to do the best in my opinion. These people don't shroud relationships in idealism, they don't expect perfection, they focus on the act of loving not being loved, they're in it for themselves and the journey, they choose to be there and they focus on learning both about thier partner and the relationship which keeps things exciting. Because people change so do relationships and everyone but the last group fails to prepare for that. If you believe love and marriage are things that happen to you they will and you'll be left devestated wondering what happened. If you believe love and marriage are things you DO then it will last as long as you're both willing to try.1
Most Helpful Girl
Hasn't killed mine, but then again we don't have a baby. Ask me again in 5 or so years, lol.
In all seriousness though, the only thing that can kill a love life is you. If neither of you put in the effort to maintain an intimate relationship because you're "busy/tired from the workday/sick/have a headache/stressed about shit" or whatever common excuses people use, then that's what's killing your love life. Not marriage. This can happen to couple who aren't married.0