We have been married almost a year now, and I've come to learn that my husband REFUSES to talk to me about finances, money, budgets, etc... we are not in debt... yet, but we rarely have any money left over at the end of the month and I know its because he is a very compulsive buyer. (video games, beer, hookah, etc..) and I feel that it is very immature that he will literally ignore me, or distract himself by playing video games, going through his phone, or even suddenly wanting to play with the dog-- anything that will get him out of a conversation with me about money problems (really, any problem for that matter.) I am getting sick and tired of this vicious cycle and not living like a responsible adult who is responsible with money.
What do I do?
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This is completely unacceptable and if you allow this to continue you will be ruined financially. It happened to me, don't let it happen to you.
You should have three accounts: one that's yours, one that's his, and one for joint expenses. You both contribute to the joint account to make rent and utilities and savings. You will have to agree how much you will each contribute to the joint account. Whatever is left over goes into your individual accounts.
If your husband is unable to discuss this then I'm afraid you will have to end the marriage. You are already unhappy and will become even more unhappy as time passes and your financial situation worsens.8